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writes:iv been with my gilrfriend for three and a half years now but iv fallen out of love with her she is always wanting to know where i am what im doing and who im with i told her about it before and she changed for a week then went back to her old way i dont want to be with her no more im really unhappy but dont know how to tell her please could you help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to all those that helped me im very thankful
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reader, Whisper +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Im sorry to hear that, but you really need to do the decent thing and let your girlfriend know how you feel. As hard as it sounds, the most important thing is that you talk to her as soon as possible, you dont want to prolong the suffering. If you are unhappy, then you have to put a stop to it, sooner rather than later. She will be upset, but eventually you will both come to terms with everything and move on. Honesty IS the best policy....good luck and let me know how you get on xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): Honesty is the best policy!! You are doing her no favours or yourself by dragging this out any further and living a lie.
Yes she's bound to be upset but given time she will get over it. I was in your shoes a year or more ago and once I did find the courage to tell me ex it was over with us - the feeling of relief and like there was a weight lifted off my shoulders was unreal....
Just get it over and done with - don't let her talk you around or change your mind with emotional black mail if you def want to finish with her!!
Good luck!
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 You are doing yourself no favours by dragging this out. You need to sit her down and tell her its over and you want to move on. Dont put it off you have made your decision. Telling someone its over is very hard to do but you need to do it now. Dont let her change your mind by promising she will change. Get is straight in your head exactly what you are going to say because if you are not direct and straight and to the point she may try and change your mind. You need to say it is over I dont want to be in this relationship any more. She will be very upset but she will get over it.
Good luck
Aunty t
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (8 March 2007):
unfortunately you have no alternative but to be upfront and honest. Let her know that youre not inlove anymore and ure not happy. Dont prolong things, let her deal with the pain and move on to find someone who will give her all that love and find happiness. Youre doing both youselves a favour by being honest. Tell her that youd still care and like to keep in touch and that its nothing more than your feelings have changed. There is no going back after this, Goodluck.
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