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writes:Okay - first off - not a virgin and was not an active church go-er. However since being sexual active and regreting it ... i feel i need church in my life and if that be the case, i have to confess to my church leader (namely cos evidence of that sexual activity is gonna show up in about 9 months lol) as i don't want to be kicked out. My parents know and are happy and supportive ... now just worried about the spiritual side of things. How does one tell their church leader? I don't think it their right what i do or don't do ... i know i have been a hypocrit and reckless but its me who must judge myself however i like church, really do and i don't want to be kicked out. Lots of girls have gotten into similar situations but they have either aborted, left church or had shot gun weddings. I don't want any of those choices ... i want my baby and i want access to church. Sure it is not gonna be perfect but if i need it then i need it - surely that is the important thing and not that i broke the rules as well as getting knocked up. Any tips on talking to the church leader? This is my business but i want to talk they cannot kick me out when bump appears - i may only talk about the sex and repentences etc etc, and not the consequences ... my baby, my body, my business. What do you think? am i deluded?
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (16 March 2010):
Miamine raises an excellent point.
This is exactly my criticism of organized religion: it moves the emphasis away from God and toward rituals and the organizational structure of churches and institutions.
Simply put: you do not owe ANY church ANYTHING.
They are not in any position to judge you for whatever reason. If they do judge you or kick you out, then that's a corrupted church.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 They can't kick you out of church, that's not allowed. Some churches are mean though and people might not speak to you and will look at you badly.
Just go and talk to your church leader. Nothing to be frighted about. You are a follower of Jesus, not a follower of man, so it dosen't matter what they think. God understands and forgives all, and your parents are on your side. Your church leader cannot force you to get an abortion, they can't force you to get married and they can't throw you out of the church. All they can do is give you some advice, go and talk, you may be surprised they may be nice.
If they make you feel bad or unwanted, no problem, the church is bad and God dosen't live in there. Just go and find another church who follows God and the bibles teaching much more carefully.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Hun, if your church cannot accept that you are human and have made a mistake then look for another church!
We all have made mistakes so no one can judge another... Not all churches are so rigid, so if you have the need to go to church and your current church doesnt accept you because of your mistakes then it is time to look for another church!!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 No Church worth anything is going to kick you out.
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