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writes:ok i have this problem...basically i think i am a pretty easy person to get on with, or thats what ppl tell me, and i never have awkward silences and people always say im fun...however im always really worried about meeting up with people on my own cos i always have this worry niggling in the back of my mind that we wont have anything to talk about and i dont know why it suddenly started one day and it wont go awayit has come to the point where i dont want a bf cos i worry bout being alone with someone and what will we talk about?!?!? i know this is really wierd but please help, any advice i dunno, relationship advic eor advice in generalthanks so much xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): thanks guys jsut u 2s been a great help
i guess if i cant make conversation with someone, then theyre not the right person for me
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): If we all started to worry about situations before they happen then we wouldnt go out of the house ever again. You cannot worry about silences and what to say to people. Actually silence time between a couple can be really lovely. Just being together, with someone you care about, shouldnt be filled with idol chatter. Just be yourself and when the time comes it wont be just you doing the talking. Stop holding back on going out with someone for fear of the silence. Meet someone and just go for it. You wont even notice any silences - there are other things to do rather than talking, so stop worrying, and enjoy life!!!Thats an order.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): hunny, when your with ya bf you havent got to talk all the time! just holding hands or having your arms round eachother, just enjoying being with eachother, that's really all ya need in my opinion. obviously do talk but don't feel pressured hun! if the guy loves you he'll just love being with you, there's no major need to always talk =]
that goes for casual friends as well, but ya gotta talk to them a bit i think...Just try and bring up good memories you've had with that friend, you'll be talking for hours i promise =]
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (12 November 2007):
 The more you think about this the worse it will become.
Hard as it may seem the only thing really for you to do is to face your fears.
Meet with someone and just let the conversation flow.
Yes there will be moments of silence but simple things and as lame as it may sound but questions about themselves always go well.
Ie what school did you go to? erm maybe strike conversation about the place that you are in. ie a cafe etc.
Let things flow and just keep saying to yourself he will like me for what i am etc.
I hope all goes well.
Peaches
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