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writes:There is this guy I really like and I don't know how to tell if he likes me. He is always trying to hang with me every chance he gets and stares at me a lot (he tries to hold eye contact with me). He playfully pokes me and touches me when talking. It seems like he likes me but the problem is he doesn't just act that way to me. There are other girls he flirts with too, but only things like poking, not eye contact and such. I don't want to ask him if he likes me because I don't want to ruin our friendship. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): It can seem awfully confusing sometimes, especially when there are alot of emotions going on inside of yourself, & particularly if you are not sure of where you stand with this individual. Friendships are precious things and thrive best on honesty and naturally a sprinkling of diplomacy helps.
If he's a friend maybe have a chat, unfortunately, flirting can be a confidence boost, but it's always nice to know the difference between a friendly "pick me up", & "I really fancy you but am too shy to ask."
Either way you need to know so you can move on up there my friend & not get distracted.Remember, we all enjoy a genuine compliment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): Dear Poster
This can be difficult; I suggest you talk to him and in chatting send the conversation in the direction of girls and then ask him what does he like in a girl what is he looking for in a girl, ask him to describe his "match"; if this guy has any real interest in you and consider you to be more then a friend; he might give you an indication by saying something such as "somebody like you" or something that will give you an indication either way; when you ask those questions listen very carefully to what he is saying I am sure you will get some indication.
The other option is ask him to tell you what kind of girl he is looking for; if you should introduce him to some of your friends; if he is "into" you; he might say something like "no, why I want you or have you";
It is really very difficult but play it by ear;
Give it a try in a very lighthearted conversation; see how he reacts; monitor his body language and listen to what he says.
Good luck; hope this is of assistance; keep us posted.
Oh, and always keep SMILING.
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reader, quarky  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 Well from what you say it seems obvious that he likes you but maybe he's a bit unsure of himself and how you feel about him. Someone either makes a move or you'll never know. If he is just a friend and you've picked up the signals wrong (which I kinda doubt from what you say), then it shouldn't ruin your friendship - he should understand. Why not try and find out how he feels-maybe in a round about way, like 'do you think I'd make a good g/f' , 'do you think I'm attractive' n stuff-see where it goes...good luck!
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reader, ROSETTE43 +, writes (9 October 2008):
get him alone and in a playing way say i know you like give him a name and see what he says you may be surprized he may say no! its you i like!
belive it or not thats how i got my 4 year relationship by trying to hook him up with my friend and he said no! i want to hook up with you! 4years now and growing
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 well babe i think the guy right now is just flirting with all girls,having fun,loving the attention..so dont take anything too personally unless he confesses to u himself..all these are playful things babe poking,teasing..if u would ask him if he likes now u would definitely scare him so chill and just wait for more hints dont rush into things..all the best
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