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writes:There is this girl in my graduating class in college that I really like. I don’t see her at all this semester but I would like to at least talk to her before graduating. Last month, I sent her a polite email — it was our first interaction — and asked her out for a lunch or drink. Not so surprisingly, she didn’t reply to my email.Now, there are two events that we both will attend in couple of weeks. 1. The graduation party: Do you think it is a good idea to approach her and start a conversation with her in that party? If so, how? 2. The graduation ceremony: She MUST come to this one ;) What should I do in this situation? Even if I don’t talk to her in the party, do you think it is ok to congratulate her after the ceremony? Is it polite? I just don’t want to look like a stalker or a desperate person; however, I DO want to have a few words with her, so that maybe in the future I can contact her. Reply to this Question
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reader, BlondeBabe x  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Okay, let’s look at both of the situations.
1. The graduation party: Personally I think this one is the better of the two options as it is far more impersonal. If you see her, start a conversation about how you haven’t spoke to her in so long and what she has been up to recently. It's important to keep the conversation light and easy. So maybe try things like if you share any common interest, how her courses have gone, what are her future plans are. If things are going well ask for a number to say that you want to keep in contact with her after graduation.
2. Graduation ceremony: If you don't ask for her number at the party then this is the time to, as it may be one of the last chances you will see her so it would be easy to lead in to. If you only see her at the ceremony then again keep the conversation friendly to catch up with her first. If things are going well then I would ask her if she wanted to meet up for a drink.
Once a conversation has been started it should flow easily the trick is just approaching at the right time. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): If you are on a friendly level with her and have spoken before, i don't see why you wouldn't start up a little conversation with her.If you don't, you are never going to know what could have been. Usually you can tell if someone is into you. Being that she already blew you off by not replying to your email, If she blows off having a conversation with you and acts irritated/ uninterested then obviously shes not interested. But at least you'll know instead of wondering forever.I think you already know deep down that you are going to say something to her. so follow your heart because who knows maybe she'll be your dream girl. Besides girls are used to being hit on by guys... Doesn't mean we think you're all desperate !!Just congratulate her on graduating ask her what she plans to do after college etc. you'll figure it out.
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