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writes:i caught my sister watching porn and masturbating !! she is 15. it has shook me inside and i cant see it happening and leave this matter though i understand its normal.what should i do about it ??? i dont know why but i dont want her to do it. please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009): Oh man!, what you wrote is my nightmare come true! I was hoping that that could never happen to my sister. She is 13 a I'm 23 so, in 2 years, this might be my problem. I think she is doing something like that but i'm not sure. All I know is that she is not a kid anymore and acts very weird sometimes.
My advice is: don't block her. Internet filtering doesn't work. Believe me. I tried. I blocked her for a couple of years but then a day came where she stayed in a friend's house with my parents permission and they had a laptop with Internet. The filters I installed weren't there. Then I realized that the Internet is just too big to block. Now, about your sister, is she finds out she can't watch what she wants to see at her home, she's gonna look someplace else that you won't know about. The same goes with tv.
So, that won't work.
The best thing you can do is teach her not to go to the next level. How?, tv shows. There are some great family shows out there. If you're concerned about her going too far, I recommend a show called "The Secret Life of the American Teenager". It's very popular and talks about sex, in a good way. There is no nudity, the act itself isn't shown. The good thing is that is about a teenage girl who gets pregnant and has to deal with a lot of issues at high school. I'm not saying that you should watch it with her. She probably won't like that. Besides, she is 15 so she can watch it by herself. You could watch the channel were is broadcasted with her some time so she can know about it (the show is broadcasted in boomerang in my country) or you could show interest in the show by leaving something about it in the computer (if she's using a shared computer). The show is really not that bad. It could help you to deal with the situation if she gets pregnant (lets hope that doesn't happen, that is what the show I'm telling you is for).
Well, that i'll leave it up to you.
Talking about some of the responses I read, ArmyMedic has a point. You just can't confront her and you can't tell your parents about what you saw. She needs you. Is better that she trusts you so you can help her when something really bad happens. I think that's really important.
Finally, she IS a teenager so, she needs some privacy. Just don't let her do what you saw too much. Spend time with her. Make her know that you care about her. Who knows? she might confide in you something important to her one day.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): If you tell your parents, and they kick up a fuss it might scar her sexuality forever. Teenagers, and their sexuality and privacy are very delicate things. If she feels her privacy is invaded or made to feel that what she is doing is wrong, then she may suffer from guilt and have difficulty with sex later on. Please think about when you were 15, how would you feel if you parents found out your secrets. Guilt and damaged sexuality are more dangerous than a 15year old girl trying to find out about sex from porn.
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reader, liv1143  +, writes (27 February 2009):
 first off, it is normal to be interested in the opposite sex, but it is NOT normal to watch porn. its a horrible addiction that, unfortunately many people have a problem with. i think that it would be a VERY smart idea to let your parents know about this. it will ultimately help your sister. i hope this helps. :)
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (26 February 2009):
 So you never masturbate? I know the thought of your little sister doing stuff like that can freak you out. But that means her privacy is even more important, so leave her to it, it's normal and none of your business.
If you interfere now, do you think she will ever come to you if she has a real problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): Excellent answer by Saltwater, not that the other aunts and uncles don't.
To OP: this has absolutely nothing to do with you. If she is doing this on her own will and privacy, then that's up to her. Not you.
Hell, I don't want YOU to ever have sex. Are you going to listen to me? No right? You shouldn't. Why should you?
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reader, saltwater +, writes (26 February 2009):
 You don't do anything....it's simply none of your business.
Masturbating is extremely common amongst both genders of all ages; it is simply not your decision to decide whether she is allowed to masturbate or not.
Leave her be....you would not like someone dictating to you that weren't allowed to masturbate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): I know you think of her as your baby sister, but she's old enough to make her own decisions in this regard. Better she look at porn and masturbate than get herself pregnant or an STD from having sex with random guys. The problem lies with you, my friend. You are uncomfortable with your little sister showing signs of sexual awakening. In essence, you are thinking in the mode of an overprotective father figure. Understandable but unjustified in this instance, as there is no inherent harm - to herself or anyone else - in what she is doing. You're just going to have to chill and accept that your sister isn't a kid any longer and has the same sexual urges as everyone else her age.
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