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writes:I did perhaps the greatest mistake of my life.I met a girl who was coming out of an abusive relationship and I decided to give it a GO. I worked 4 jobs at some point but still had time to attend her emotional and physical needs. I workship and adore this person, she was my whole universeShe never once tried to look for a job and I was okay with that. Little that I knew is that she was still sleeping with her ex.I decided to marrying her not knowing she still was seeing him and she was not honest enough to admit it.I found out a couple of weeks ago that she was in fact cheating before and after the wedding. In my apartment that I work so hard to get, and 2 days before the wedding. If I would of know she was cheating on me I wouldnt gotten married. Is there any legal action I could take? like an annulment?She doesn't have a car nor a job, she is just too lazy to get a job. Instead she rathers watch tv all day. I lost much of the respect I had for her because lets face it guys, you go and work like crazy to be a decent provider, you try your best to make her happy and waste you time in money it seems when someone cheats on you.We gave ourselves a couple of months to see if it works out. Some part of me still loves her but most really just faded, I dont think she is the person I wanna spend the rest of my life and I think down the line I desire someone better looking and just overall better than her.I am noticing that I dont desire her anymore and the thought of being with her just makes me sick. We have done it but I am waiting to be get it over with and I feel dirty.WHat can I do?
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reader, nichiren +, writes (26 February 2009):
 How long have you been married?If its less than a year in most states you can get it annulled with the courts without too much pain on your part.However, you do need to get a divorce as soon as possible.Like the other person said, she may get pregnant then you are stuck dealing with her for the rest of your life.And the fact that she does not work may give her alimony in divorce proceedings depending on your state law. However if you have proff of her adultery in any fashion, that can be brough to court, then you may be able to get an uncontested divorce.Seriously though, get out of it before its too late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): Wow, That is awful! Get out of this marraige before you get her pregnant and she has your hooks in you for the rest of your life.
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