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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi I am 23 years old,I'm indian my parents are very traditional and conservative and I'v had a very controlled life..NO boyfriends,NO kissing,NO SEX,NO DRINKING,NO SMOKING!..Inspite of them being soo strict I managed to meet boys I'v never had sex with them that was my personal choice,to this date I just made out with 2 men that's it..but I'm a hopeless romantic I survive on reading these love stories by nicholas sparks knowing one day I'l fall hopelessly in love with this guy who I will spend the rest of my life with..BUT my parents want to snatch this away from me too,they want me to have an arranged marriage,they said they'l give me time to know the guy and if I don't like him I can say NO but I don't want to meet someone like that..like sending them my picture..GOD!so emabarassing!I can't spend my life with someone like that..I want to fall in love,why am I deprived of it..I'm hindi and they want a man to be of the same caste and releigion..how can they do that?what if I fall in love with a white,an arab,or some other ethnicity!!I have tried speaking to them but they blow me away saying there is no point trying and this is how its going to work:( I spent my whole life doing what they want me to do,but when it comes to marriage I want to pick my man..And yess I still live with my parents in india,cuz there's no choice I can't leave like that,it'l become a social issue LOL..I don't mind living with them,they'v giving me everything,I point at something and I have it buttt my life partner I can't have them pick that one special person for me!what do I do????
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am not saying I want a prince charming to come riding in his horse and take me to his palace..I believe in love and I want the whole experience of falling in love,like I said all the restrictions they had I was okay with it,its fine but about the man I'm spending my lifee I would definitely like to pick my own which I am not allowed..anywys thanks for your advise..
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reader, lovebot  +, writes (13 August 2012):
I think those romance novels and Hollywood love stories are very unhealthy. They set expectations too high, in my opinion.
Since you live in India, it's going to be kind of tough to have a relationship with a non-Indian, from a social standpoint...I'm guessing. It would be a whole lot easier if you lived in a different country. If it means that much to you, perhaps you should try visiting another country like the U.S. or Australia...and then later think about moving there. Perhaps, you will prefer Indian culture. I don't know. The grass is always greener on the other side, as they say.
I was thinking about dating Indian girls but then I became hesitant since I think the parents wouldn't approve of me since I'm Korean-American...I don't want to waste my time. I dated this one Indian girl who actually grew up in Latin America. It wasn't a good match though. I will keep an open mind if the opportunity presents itself again.
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reader, sanguine303  +, writes (12 August 2012):
since you live in India with your parents and you are hindu so you also know that how strict our Indian culture is. if your parents want that you should see a boy of their choice then for them you can see one or two and give a chance to them. It may be possible you like them or the boy may me exactly of your dreams .
But if it does not work out then try your best to explain your parents that you have full rights to select your life partner
of your choice with whom you love. try to explain your parents
that you have you are mature enough to take your decisions about your life and life partner.
but do not take any wrong step.
best of luck for your life .
My good wishes are with you.
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