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writes:I really don't want my boyfriend to get bored of me. We've been seeing each other for a few months, and we have sex on a regular basis, but I refuse to give or receive oral sex. I don't know why, but it really is a big turn off for me, and theres something about it that I really don't like, but how else can I keep my boyfriend happy? Because surely just having sex over and over again does get a bit tedious? I'm sure my boyfriend would never dump me over this, because he said our relationship isn't about sex, it's about us, but i'm concerned that if we just stick to sex, he's going to get bored, we'll start to argue, and then break up. Any ideas as to how I can prevent this from happening?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): My boy friend and I gets in to fights because he does not want me to talk to other people like his friends because he gets very jealious.I really love him with all my heart but he fails to see it,How can I get him to see that i dont want anyone else but him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): i agree with kc100.i dont know your relationship, but keep this in mind, hes young i asume and he might feel hes missing out, therefor he might want to go out and find what hes not getting from you.oral is not bad.you dont have to find your gag reflexes to make him happy,just give him some oral attention, with your hand doing most of the work. but your face down there doing something...anything will be a turn on,for those special times of your relationship
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 March 2009):
 I think you need to listen to your boyfriend on this one, he is right in saying the relationship is about you both rather than just sex. Sex is an added bonus part to the relationship!
Sex shouldnt get boring, not many men will complain if they are getting sex regularly! If you are worried about it becoming repetitive then try different positions once in a while to shake things up a little. If he is normally on top, then suprise him one day by jumping on top of him! There are so many different positions you can try, do a bit of research online and see if there are any you think you could have a go at.
And have you ever tried oral sex before? I used to be like you in that I hated the idea of it and would always steer clear of it. But oneday I did give it a go, and it isnt as bad as you think. You could keep it as a special treat, where you only do it every once in a while. If you really cant bring yourself to do it then maybe try just licking his penis, he will love it and you dont have to put the whole thing in your mouth! Work your way up from the base to the tip, this normally goes down pretty well! And then you can just continue on into your normal routine!
Try not to worry about this, I'm sure your boyfriend loves you for who you are not just what you do in the bedroom. And by the sounds of it, if he wasnt happy with things he would talk to you about it rather than just ending things with you. There is more you can do that just oral sex to please a man so try not to worry about it too much!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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