I don't want him...doesn't he get it?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My ex boyfriend who just continues to stalk me. He left me about two years ago to be with his baby's mother at the time (found out later on that the baby was was not his)he treated be really, really bad..he was verbally, mentally, emotionally and sometimes phys. abusive towards me, he would be embarrassed to be seen with me in public because, he thought I was "too old for me (I was only three years older), he would ridicule the clothes I would wear, downplay my books and streets smart, I couldn't hold a decent conversation with him over the phone, he didn't seem to have a high level of respect for me or women in general...he even put my health at risk, but that is another story. But this is the thing, it took me almost one year to get over him with counseling, pray and time and I did, I was able to move on to a more successful and loving relationship now he is trying to come between me and my current love. He stalks my family on Facebook asking about me, he sends tons of emails..well he use to, I had to switch accounts, somehow he was able to call into my current boyfriend's cell phone provider and get is cell phone temp. disconnected, he hand writes letters and takes them to my parents house for delivery, he continues to go to my old address to see if I will move back or if anyone has heard from me...basically looking for information. People have told me they have seen him crying and acting out in front of my old place of residence. He told my sister on Facebook that I was the one that got away, the he still loves me, how he is ashamed at the way he pushed me away and treated me, that he wants a second chance, and blah, blah, blah.....frankly I don't want him, I am totally over him, I don't love him anymore, I don't care about him...I mean, I don't hate him either, I just don't want him you know? I want him to move on and find somebody else and hopefully he has learned his lesson...hey if he married,next year, I would go...lol..lol...I am very happy right now, living the live of my dreams, with the man of my dreams and basically I want my ex to stop stalking me and my new guy....just leave us alone already. He was such in a rush to dismiss me like trash two years ago for someone else and now since she is gone, and he can't seem to form meaningful relationships with other women, now he wants me back...even if I wasn't in a relationship with my current guy, I would never ever go back to my ex....I just don't care about him or love him anymore, but he doesn't seem to get it...he still thinks that I care for him, even though I refuse to make contact with him and have put a restraining order against him. He told my sister on Facebook that he isn't going to stop pursuing me until I all his again......should I be worried about this guy? Will he end up seriously hurting me or my boyfriend? I asked my family to block him and make they're profiles private.....I just hope I am not in dangers way....why do some guys like to come back after they have caused so much emotional damage? I don't want him...doesn't he get it?

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