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*utterfly18
writes:I have a crush on a guy 4 almost a year and we re both in college well i started to like him when i knew that he likes me but im just too shy to talk to him so... he tried so many times to talk to me and show me that he likes memonth ago he sat next to me in class(it wasnt by accident) so i felt so nervous and i was blushing and couldnt say a word and we both were so uncomfortable (even though i always dreamed of this moment but i dont know i just felt scared and i thought im gonna make a fool of myself if he talked to me)and to make it worse i just sat somewhere else when the lecture was over... and now hes avoiding me and i really feel so bad about it coz if i were him i think i would really hurt and especially that he doesnt really talk to lot of girls ...so im sure it took him alot of courage to do it then i acted like that and i really like him i mean hes almost perfect but i dont know i just feel really nervous when i see him passing by and i really wish if he knows how i feel about him and i dont want him to think i hate him so GUYS do u think i hurt him and if yes then how can i make it right?and why do i feel that nervous when he's around ?why cant i just be like normal people and talk to him i mean what kind of people would have a crush on someone for a whole year and not doing any damn thing about it?please help me with that coz i like him so much and dont wanna lose him and i cant stop thinking about what i could've done at that moment and it really makes me cry knowing that i hurt him coz hes really a good guy and deserves better so...appreciate any advice
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 You definitely hurt him. He has probably been working up the courage to sit by you all semester. Then to have you move away. Yeah, that hurt. How can you make it right? Talk to him. Tell him you like him and were nervous.
You get nervous because you like him. Often those first few things you say will be awkward, and in your head you'll be thinking "god, why did I just say that?" That happens to everyone. The key is to just keep going.
Ask a question about something. It could be something from class, or about something you see he has. What music he likes. Where to download music. Any of that. It will strike up a conversation. Just remember to avoid yes or no questions. End the conversation by saying you think you two should get dinner together sometime.
Just go for it. He's just as scared as you. Show him you're interested. You can do it!
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