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female
age
30-35,
*issoverit
writes:I've been dating this guy in the military. its been two years. he still doesnt want me as his girlfriend, now im starting to think it just about the sex to him... he really only texts me. he even told me he was talking to someone else and i said fine. i know feel stupid for still messing around with him. ive tried not talking to him, the longest i think was two weeks and i still ended up calling and texting him first. i honestly just wanna be over him already. i feel like im not good enough for him. how do i just let him go? how do i make him feel the pain he put me through? because ignoring him doesnt work he just ignores me to until i text him. im so tired of thinkin about him, and caring so much about him..please help me get through this cupid.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (29 December 2010):
 Almost every person has been through this before. It is extremely hard letting go of someone you care / love, especially after you've slept with them.
From the sounds of your post, it doesn't sound like you are a traditional boyfriend / girlfriend. At best, you are acquaintances with benefits.
It sounds like you need to get out a bit more. It is tough at your age and it's hard to find quality people who value long-term relationships. However, there are plenty of guys to get to know out there. Try joining a dating website, hit the gym, volunteer, take some classes. The most important thing is to get yourself out there and make yourself available to meet people. Even have your friends set you up.
There are two books you should probably read. Dr Laura Schlessinger's "10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives" and "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt. Both are easy to find and should help you out.
Bottom line, don't be afraid to take a little pain today to avoid a huge heart-ache down the road.
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