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writes:Hey GuysOk so this is going to sound a lil freaky of me but i don't understand why I feel this way.I've been going out with this guy for 3 months and have been sleeping together for 2 of those, it's a serious relationship.We had a long talk about contraception and decided that we'd use condoms and i'd go on the pill as we both feel like we're too young and know we're not financially stable enought to risk me getting pregnant. However recently (for the past few weeks) I've had this strong desire to become pregnant by him and this feeling isn't going away, if anything it's getting a little stronger.I'm just so confused since I know in my head I don't want children yet but the rest of me craves it... why and what can i do to stop it???? Thanks in advance for your replies. xxx
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reader, 78ta09  +, writes (14 September 2009):
 omg i know exactly what you are going through.. only he had a daughter when he was 21 and she only lived a week - she was extremely preemie bc his stupid fiance was too selfish to get off the cocaine - and when i was 16 i had 2 miscarriages.. i often think of the babies and for the first year after i was trying to fill the void with puppies kittens babysitting other peoples children, it didnt help. it actually made it harder.. that was 2 years ago and when i met him about 3 months ago we clicked.. and i think the biggest reason is we've both lost flesh and blood. we have talked about kids but we both know it is too soon in our early stages of our relationship for that but he has told me every month when i have my period, in the back of his mind he hopes i dont start. and i feel that same way. and when i do its disappointing.. we're not trying for a baby bc we know better but we both are in the understanding that i have a very low pregnancy hormone so basically i will go through menopause early and it will be difficult to have kids after age 25.. but i hope for the best and try not to think of my unterus as a ticking time bomb so that i wont feel the need to rush anything before we are financially and physically ready.. its hard.. trust me i understand..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): I think when you are strongly attracted to someone physically and having intimate relations, your brain chemicals are kicking in and making you pretty darn infatuated and for women we are hardwired to bond with our lovers. The fact that you have the urge to become pregnant is mother nature's way of making sure that happens, it's all those good feeling brain chemicals swimming around. But, you know better, you do not want a pregnancy right now, and the fact that you are already sexually active for two months without being on the pill has been risky, so take care of birth control and you are good to go.
Don't worry about the urge to merge, it will come and go...
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