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writes:I'm 16.I'm in a stable relationship with a guy who I adore (don't care how immature this sounds- he makes me the happiest I've ever felt and treats me like a princess).Ever since meeting him, I've become so broody. Like, I can't stop looking at babies in the street or daydreaming about starting a family with him.Does anyone know how I can stop feeling so broody? I've tried babysitting, but I love it. Even changing nappies XDI don't want a baby right now, but it seems like my body is screaming at me to have one. I want to finish school and train to be a Midwife. A baby is the last thing I need.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 February 2012):
 Yea those hormones can make you feel a little loopy! If you have that maternal urge, get a puppy. Raise your puppy, train it and take care of it. It might quiet down some of the feelings.
Also, keep working towards your dreams. A teenage pregnancy is going to make is MANY times harder to get to those goals. You know that :) Stay smart.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Now is not the time for a baby. Period.
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reader, natasia +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Yes, of course your body is doing just that. You are at the height of your fertility. You are young and healthy. It is the ideal time for your body to reproduce. You are also in a totally stable relationship with a man with whom you are completely bonded. As far as your body is concerned, these are all the greenest of lights and believe me, your body will drive you insane with its insistence that you should be pregnant. And, being pregnant would be the greatest fulfillment and your baby the greatest joy.
However, as you say, we aren't living in a primitive society where we can just trust our bodies to tell us what to do. You need time and energy to train and do what you need to do. So, you need to go on the pill. If you do that, your own hormones will be swamped and taken over by high doses of animal hormones, and your sex drive will drop significantly. You also won't be fertile. So you won't have the surges of desire and the broodiness. It will all go. You probably won't enjoy sex and closeness in quite the way you do now, but you will be safe, and will be able to get on with your education and life choices before you are ready for a child.
And that's why they invented the Pill ; )
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reader, OscarsMummyReturns +, writes (17 February 2012):
finish school and be a midwife a fanatastic career with babies galore aim for that do more babysitting and that should satisfy your baby cravings ! You a very young and yes its nice to be 'loved up' but there is so much time for all that do not get carried away.. whos to say you boyfriend wants a child anyway being so young it would be so hard and you may well split up and then you'd be on your own with a baby, not my idea of fun at 16... just enjoy what you have and dont rush and as per the above comment speak to your mum and make sure you are using sufficient protection too
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reader, Holli' +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Hiya hun :)Don't worry about a thing :) hundreds of us girls have several periods as we grow through our teens of being broody, sometimes it can last for a couple of weeks, sometimes it can last for months and months. I had it for half a year when I was 14, I bought a doll and treated it like my baby and looked up baby names on the internet and other stuff like that. It turns out to be a phase and you sort of 'grow out of it' then you'll be into something else like horses, bohemian fashion, playing the guitar, whatever :PThe thing is as we grow up we have however many annoying hormones doing whatever and your gonna have times were you really want this, and you crave that and you feel this etc. It's normal, we are girls we change our minds, go on and off things, it what we do, it's like perfume, you wouldn't want the same one for the rest of your life would you? :PSo you can either . . . Wait until this broodiness wares off, this could take a while remember :)Try to occupy your mind by getting a new hobby or interest.Buy a doll like myself and treat it like it is actually real, I think the reason this helps you become less broody is because the doll doesn't respond like a real one and you become bored and therefore no longer want a baby.One things for sure though hun, ideally you don't really want to be having a baby at 16-17, I would wait until your mid-late 20's at the earliest ;)It's not just a baby, it's the swollen feet, bad back and stretch marks that come with it - fine when your happily married and your husband can't go scurrying off but not so good if your 16-17 and want to show off your body at festivals or on holiday :P You sound like you know this all anyway, so enjoy your time babysitting, finish school and become a midwife, do what YOU want to do first then you can have a baby :)Hope this helps you :) take care xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Keep repeating your last sentence over and over whenever the thought of having a baby crosses your mind and keep repeating it until the thought goes away. It is so true that a baby is the last thing you need at this point in your life. There will be the perfect time some day but not now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): congratulations for not just acting on your body's feelings and jumping into bed and reproducing, unlike most of the teenagers in this country.
you have high hopes for your future, so you should act on these, keep up your babysitting.
and as for the broodiness, i'm not entirely sure what you can do really, maybe talk to your mum about it? if you are scared, just remember that she should be happy that you are NOT having a baby rather than that you are TRYING to have one
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