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writes: My boyfriend has been invited to a wedding in Scotland. All his friends are going and they are taking thier girlfriends and children, but my boyfriend, who I live with, is not taking me and my daughter and our 5 mnth old son. He says it's nothing personal, he just wants to enjoy a weekend on his own with his mates and have a bit of space. His ex and her husband will be there but I do not trust her. I recently found out she has been texting him when he's at work and although he has now told her to stop and that he doesn't think it's right, I can't help but wonder what would have happened if I had not found out. And why doesn't he want me with him? We have a family holiday planned for a couple of weeks before this and he says that is the reason why he thinks it's okay if me and the children don't go with him to the wedding, but I feel like a fool, as everyone else is taking their partner. I'm sorry this is so long but I'm desperately unhappy and need some advice on how to deal with this as I'm scared I won't cope with him being with her on this weekend and end things with him. But I won't just be breaking up a relationship, I will be breaking up my family, and my baby son had heart surgery at three weeks. We nearly lost him. I coped well with that at the time, but the image of my son haunts me now and I just feel so scared and angry all the time. I don't know what to do. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2005): Pesonally i can't believe he would do this in the first place! It sounds suss to me! I would tell him your going and that's that! If i was in your shoes i would just go whether he likes it or not! What kind of a man is he to do such a thing? If he really loved you he would have had no intention to suggest to leave you at home while he goes to this wedding anyway! Go with him and don't take "No" for an answer! Or stay at home and be wondering for the rest of your life if anything did ever happen with him and his ex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2005): After what you said about your little boy i feel that he needs time on his own to do his own thing, which is fine but not at this wedding under the circumstances.I think that you both need to talk about what has happened with your little boy and both your feelings. He's got to realise that you were affected in all this as well as him. Ask him to sit down and talk about the wedding telling him how hurt you feel about it. I think he's being very selfish and not thinking about your feelings at all. He's a grown man with a child to think of now, tell him that he can go out with his mates another time, tell him yo're feeling a little vunerable at the moment and would be grateful of his support.Try not to get angry because nothing get's sorted like that tell in a calm manner if he interupts say he can have his say when your finished be firm but not angry, good luck
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reader, star3482 +, writes (11 May 2005):
WHAT!! Personally i think he's a cheeky sod! you can do 2 things:- demand you are going and don't take no for an answer and book on yourself, or 2 - arrange a girly holiday for yourself and your friends after he's back without him, and he can look after your son. I can't believe the cheek, really i cant! if it was a lads' holiday, i'd say fine - but if all the other women are going.... - cant you just say you'll go along but all the guys can go out together and all the girls??? plus wont he feel like a gooseberry with all those couples? - i dont know if you will have anything to worry about with his ex but he will sure make you look stupid in front of her if he won't let you go! plus if he can see that it hurts you so much he's being very nasty to go and leave you at home this upset!!!
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