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writes: This is probably a stupid question and people will probably think im really superficial but I have been best friends with a guy named "Dave" for about a year now.I really like him a lot and he really likes me. He is everything I could ask for in a guy. He is smart, funny, sensitive, caring and everything else. But the problem is I'm not attracted to him at all.I would love to date him but I just can't because there is just no attraction. And there has to be some sort of attraction in a relationship, right? I'm not sure if this is a question that can be answered or not...but if someone could help, I would really appreciate it...Thanks.
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reader, star3482 +, writes (11 May 2005):
There's no point getting together if you dont have the chemistry, it's not superficial - it's human! I'ive just split from my caring, sensitive, loyal, and trustworthy boyfriend after 3 years because there's no spark any more and I'm always checking other guys out - there's no point starting off like that - there has to be butterflies when you're meeting him and you have to not be able to keep your hands off each other - otherwise you'll just get bored.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (11 May 2005):
 Why not socialise with him as friends? You obviously see that he has a lot of great qualities; maybe your romantic feelings will grow if you get to know him better.Try to see him when you're in groups of friends, so that he doesn't get his hopes unnecessarily high. Be sure you let him know what a good friend he is and how much you enjoy his friendship (emphasising "friend" intentionally). It would be awful if he were to be misled about your intentions.However, some of the longest-lasting romances started as friendships, and if he's got as many strings to his bow as you indicate, you might start to find him more appealing as boyfriend material over time. Give the boy a chance!
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