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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay so to start off, me and this boy went out for 1 year and a couple months. We are both 17, young I know. Everything was great until the last 2 months of our relationship. We had been arguing a lot, but at the end of the day we always made up. This went on for about a month that it became an everyday thing. I would get mad about the dumbest things I admit, but he always was the one to apologize and not fight back. He never once told me he felt I was too controlling or that I was trying to change him. I had really good communication with him, and I thought he did too but apparently not. Throughout those fights he felt like he could never make me happy no matter how much he tried. He told this to one of his close friends but not me.. I had no idea this was going on, because at the time I got mad about him about certain things he just apologized, and he said he would do anything to make me happy. It was one day that I checked him e-mail to find he had sent a heart 3 to a girl. I got really mad and overreacted, and we ended up breaking up. After that he was really mean, told me to leave him alone, give him space, etc. I did the complete opposite, and even begged back for him. I was so desperate at that time, I didn't know what to do. This was my first love, my first everything. He just asked for more time and left it at that, he said he wanted to be single and didn't want to be with me right "now." We later talked about prom, and agreed to go as friends, since he had already asked me and all plans were set. I didn't want to at first, because it hurt too much, but I agreed. I asked him if he wanted to go with anyone else and he said that if he didn't go with me he wouldn't go with anyone at all. As soon as we broke up he had began talking to a girl, the one I had got mad over sending the heart to. And when we talked soon after our breakup he said he didn't like her etc. Well later on he ditched me 2 weeks before prom, because he didn't think it was fair for him to spend his money to go and he wouldn't enjoy it, he also didn't want to "hurt me." I got really mad, he tried to be friends but I just told him to leave me alone, and he has not contacted me since for about a month now. Well turns out he did go to prom, with that girl he supposedly didn't like, and he also hooked up with her. Now I don't know what to think, I hate how we left things, and at times I just want to go and agree to being friends, but seeing what he has done up to now makes me feel hatred. I don't understand how he was able to get over our relationship this fast... I know he did not cheat on me or anything. I still miss him, and I know I should move on but I just wish we at least had some closure. Any advice?
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reader, Mr. Y  +, writes (18 May 2012):
He tried to make you happy all the time.Now its your turn to make him happy :).Just Let him go with this girl.Let him experience this change.Let him move ahead in a different direction. Don't drool over him , don't think of him to come back either as a friend or as a boyfriend.(He may come back as a friend after 3-4 years.Then you will feel a different kind of chemistry with him).By that time move ahead for your next relationship.Its good that it happened to you at the age of 17.You are still young enough to get going with a new person quickly. Now here is what you have to do - Find a new guy, tell him that you never fell in love before and you just had crushes and in the past but no serious relationship.And then start everything like a new found love.Just make sure that you don't make the same mistakes again.(New mistakes are always welcome).If you are thinking that your heart is still with the same guy.Stop thinking like that because your heart is with you.It used to beat faster when you were together but now it is beating slower because you two are not together anymore.It is causing the heart to push you blood with lower pressure inside your body.So basically you are suffering from low blood pressure.The only way to come out of it is to make your heart beat fast again.This will not happen with the same guy. It will happen with another guy now. Remember one thing.. don't tell the new guy about your old guy.
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