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41-50,
*DinCali
writes:He calls often, just always wants to know how I'm doing and that he finds me attractive and at times tutors me with my science classes, so he's quite bright (unless he's quick on Googling information). It's all really sweet.However, when I ask him things I get: "Fine", "Didn't do anything", "I like lots of things", "Nothing in particular", "I like listening more than talking", and keeps me hanging on hope for a date with a, "we should do that sometime". Another bothersome thing; he always wants me to make the decisions on things, where to eat, where to go and what to do. I'm tired of just talking about me. And there's always an excuse as to why we can't schedule a date; mainly his work schedule. Is been a few months of this. Am I wasting my time? He seems like a good guy, so it's a bit frustrating. I don't understand his man language or how to get him to open up.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (1 March 2011):
JDinCali is verified as being by the original poster of the question LOL! Anonymous, don't know if it'll get to the 'going to bed' part anytime soon, (or at all), but it's a funny example. So, thanks for the giggle! What you wrote totally makes sense; I think you hit the nail on the head. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): He does like you. I don't think he's playing games with you though. He's just really smart intellectually which translates to him being really dumb socially. State things explicitly, don't expect any games to work. If you want to know more about him, ask specific questions. Ask him for examples when he gives general answers. Ask him to set up a date with you within the next week with a time that works for him.This statement with its hidden meaning won't work with him: Honey, I'm going to bed now...This statement with its clear and explicit meaning will work with him: Honey, I'm going to bed now with the expectation that you will be joining me for sex within the next 6 minutes and 35 seconds. Any time past that will constitute a lack of interest on your part and I'll actually fall asleep. I'll be pissed the next morning.Good luck.
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reader, MartinaA  +, writes (1 March 2011):
He is a jerk, talkes to you when he has nothing better to do!
He knows you like him so he us pulling all the strings!
Don't be his puppet, if you think he is playing some "man game"
Then play our game!
Ignore
Ignore
Ignore
:)
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reader, lucylu000  +, writes (28 February 2011):
Maybe make yourself less avaliable to him. If he knows you're always there he may not feel like he needs to bother as much. Don't answer his calls sometimes, when there's talk of meeting up say that you have plans and you're not sure when you can do. Make sure he knows that you've got other things going on and that you're not just waiting on him to decide when he wants to see you. If this fails I would say just talk to him honestly, tell him how you feel and say you want to meet up if he's still giving all the same excuses I would suggest giving up. I'm sure there's alot more people out there that would be happy to give you their time. xx
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