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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Something has been really on my mind lately and i just can't shake it. I have been dating my boyfriend for well over a year now, but i have had a problem for most of that time.It must have been on our second/third date (and my birthday) in March 2008. He took me for a lovely romantic dinner and i had really fallen hard for him at that point. I could not believe i had attracted such a gorgeous guy!We went to a bar afterward and he ordered the drinks while i sat outside. We got chatting and then a girl walks out to where we are (but she is on the phone). My boyfriend at that poing acts all wierd and hides his face from the girl by looking at me. My gut went into overdrive and i knew something was up. Something just wasn't right. after asking him continuously why he "hid" from the girl he gave me a straing answer (after a lot of "nothing is wrong" answers). Turns out that the girl and my boyfriend went on a date (i don't know exactly when but it was in the Febuary and before we had met). He said nothing had happened, they wern't right for each other. So i was fine with that, so she was an ex but i have him now right?But that night i asked myself "why would he hide?" "so what if she said hi?" So i asked him the next time i saw him and he said that he didn't want her to ask questions and see me. That to me sounds like he had something to hide, anyway i dropped it. Then a couple of months later it turns out they kissed on their date. Now a year later i still don't trust him 100%, he lied to me and i can't help but think maybe something else happened for him to act so strange when he saw he on our date. The thing is when i ask about her he get all defensive even now. I just want to know what really happened. But i don't think he is ever going to tell me. It is driving me insane. I feel like he is hiding something from me. How do i ask him to tell me the truth about why he acted that way? (Sorry its a long question).Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 He is hiding something from you but its something you don't need to know. Its not affecting your existing relationship and as long as he loves and respects you that is all you really do need to know. The life before you is best not shared unless its offered.
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