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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i met this guy two months ago and we really hit it off and i think i am falling for him big time. The only problem is i am not sure how he feels about me now, i had sex with him after a few dates (about one month after meeting him) I feel he is losing interest in me. He did cook me dinner and was good to me yesterday, i just feel he is very cold, i feel he has pulled back, he use to text me alot more but now i would text him and he does not come back to me, its like i have to do all the contact.He is going on holidays next week and then i am not sure what is happening. i said for him to contact me and he just smiled at me. Is he just using me and should i move on?? I know he has been hurt and has issues from the past but i think if a guy is interested they would make more of an effort? Is he playing games with me??
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reader, Princess D.  +, writes (1 August 2009):
 for a person whose between the ages of 30-35, u sure marveled me by your question. Yes dear he is using you, you freed it up quickly so he left. A months time wasnt enough to build a strong relationship and get to know one another sufficiently. He only texted and called to lure you in, i've seen it happen around me alot, and once he got it, that was it. u weren't even a challenge. A guy who is interested will come see u very often, call tex , and would do watever it takes to show you he likes u with no doubt in your mind. I could go on about how a guy shows a lady he is intereted because it happen to me and tht guy is my 1st and now my fiance. Sweetheart u are lovely and an unique individual hold off sex from guys you just meet, u will never know their true intensions. Become challenging and exciting, trust me it works. As for the guy let him chase u. He might be back for more sex , but rememer become a challenge, be happy and remember God loves u!!gud luck dear!!
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reader, girl79  +, writes (30 June 2009):
You know I have found myself in this situation one too many times and the truth of the matter is that if a man is interested in you then he makes sure you know it. Far too many times we see things that simply aren't there, or we see things that we want to see. In my opinion if you're having doubts about this guys intentions or his feelings for you then you need to call him out and ask him, otherwise you might be wasting your time on someone or on something that isn't there.Good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it sounds like he is using you. But don't feel bad, you are not the only one this happens to. I just went through a similiar experience. He would string me along, making me believe he cared about me. The problem is, I would feel horrible after being around him and I noticed I began to feel more desperate, something I had never experienced before. I realized that I needed to break it off with him in order to respect myself. I have not spoken to him in 7 weeks and I feel much better. I made friends with people online to cope and deal with the loneliness. I am better now and I just can't believe that I let myself get that desperate. But I want to close and say good luck! You deserve to be happy. Listen to your instincts and your feelings to guide you.
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