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30-35,
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writes:Hey everyone! I need some advice. One of my girl friends is dating a total jerk! They've been together for 4 years, from ages 14-18. She always tells me about all the bad/stupid things he has done. I've been around them, and honestly I don't think he treats her right. He isn't very nice to her. And he just seems like an ass. He asked some girl that he knew had a crush on him to take him to pick up furniture instead of his own girlfriend, he hangs up on her all the time, he was supposed to be saving for a ring, but bought an xbox instead (ok I lol at this one)! There are many other things. He is just rude to her. She tells me all the asshole things he does, then tells me about how his grandma is asking him when my friend and him are going to get married and have kids. Okay I couldn't bite my tongue when she told me this. I said you are 18! She was like, so we've been together for 4 years. Normally I would be like ok. But they were kids when they got together. We're still only 18. I would say go for it if it was from 18-22, not 14-18! But he is also a complete jerk! She talks about him a lot, and I always want to say he doesn't treat you well! I don't think they should get married AT ALL. What should I do? Bite my tongue or tell her the truth? Thanks!
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reader, Denizli  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 honestly there's no much you can do. I've been there before, and i ended up seen as the bad character of the story. I tried to help my friend open her eyes and see the kind of man her boyfriend was before getting engaged. She ended up being mad at me thinking i was jealous and envious cause of her 'good luck' and she even thought i was in love with that asshole. She ended up hurt and very depressed when she came to realize the man of her dreams was seeing someone else just 1 month before the wedding. So don't insist much, it's her decision, i understand you care about her but some people need to learn by themselves. Good luck to you and your friend!
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