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writes: Im known as a super smart kid in mt school. next year im going to a charter school for eighth grade.its a brand new school just built. and all the kids there are super geniuses. like sheldon cooper smart.and im scared i wont be one of the smartest anymore. i really value intelligence, and cant handle the thought. any tips??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the insight. its very pleasing. but i did not really phrase my question right. what i meant was, how do i make myself smarter and eventually work to the top. ive never done this before, and want to know exactly how to push myself to be the best i can. its not really that i want the title of smartest
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 First of all, congratulations on going to your new school! It sounds like your quality of education is going to be better than what you're getting now!
As for you not being the smartest anymore, I know it feels like a bad thing to you, but in reality, it's one of the best things to ever happen.
People who are used to being on the top of the percentiles, the strongest, the smartest, the most popular, can fall into a rut of not challenging yourself. The fact that you now may be faces with people who equal you will foster the desire to better yourself, to push yourself, to improve yourself. It cuts out complacency. It shows you that your place in this world must be earned. This struggle will only improve you, because the best way to become smarter, stronger, or faster is to constantly test yourself against people who outrank you, are better than you, or can give you a run for your money.
I know you don't like this now, but it really is a great thing when it comes to your overall life and mental development. If there's one thing you have to take in, it's that no matter how good you are, how smart you are, someone, somewhere out there will always be better. It's that knowing that can push you to even greater heights.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 Being the smartest doesnt mean necessarily that you will get the best grades, be the most successful or have the best future. Smart kids often take for granted how smart they are and dont work hard at improving themselves so they end up failing.
Stop comparing yourself to other people and be the best person that you can be. No-one else matters but you - when you are older you are not going to look back on your life and wish that you were the smartest kid in school. All you are going to ever regret is not working hard enough in school, not trying your best and not being a nice person.
So work hard, be a nice person to everyone you meet and dont judge people on their intelligence, colour of their skin, the way they look, how geeky they are....nothing.
If you think about Sheldon from the big bang theory he is not the happiest is he? Why is that? Because he has many social problems, he is afraid of many many things and is almost too intelligent for his own good. Being smart does not mean you are going to have a happy life, it can in fact mean the opposite. You need a combination of intelligence and life skills in order to be happy, so you can study all you want but you still need to be able to make friends, have fun, have hobbies that dont involve studying and be healthy.
No-one at school is going to care that you are not the smartest person there. And you should not care either - this is your life and you are living it, no-one will live your life for you and in 10 years time no-one is going to ask you if you were the smartest kid in school. Work hard, get good grades and figure out what you want to do with your life. Once you know what you want your career to be, make sure you work hard and do everything you can to achieve your goals. Nothing else matters apart from achieving your PERSONAL goals, your goals are unique to you and comparing yourself to other people will achieve nothing.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 My tip would be that suffering because you are not the smartest ( by which I think you mean, academically smart and successful ) at genius kids school, is not that smart, in fact it is more or less as lame as suffering because you aren't the blondest and prettiest of the pretty girls at a normal high schol.
And note, this is said by a person who values highly education and culture.
But, you can't live your life just for the competition, to be on top of everybody else and get the accolades. You just do the very best that you can with the tools and qualities that you have, and once you have done that you are fine, you have reached your personal best and you can be proud of that . If other people get better results, more power to them, you can look at them for motivation and inspiration, but why feeling bad about yourself because of that ?
I understand that you'll be comparing yourself strictly based on grades and academic accomplishments, so if you were used to be number 1, and now you find yourself at number 5 or 10, it may sting a bit. But try to have a less narrow , less limited vision. Ther's not only I.Q, there's also E.Q. In a wider,more inclusive perspective, you could be very possibly be ahead of other students under other respects. Your mates might have beter grades in maths, physics or history, but you might have better social skills, artistic talent, empathy, sense of humour or what not, and be , all in all, a more well-rounded personality than them. And go on to have a more succesful, and, most importantly, happier , more fulfilling life. It's not all about books, you know ? ( again, said by a true bookworm ).
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