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writes: I'm a young boy, under the age of 15 but I've had sex. The thing is it was with another boy. I haven't done for a good couple of years and I don't find boys attractive. I've had a few girlfriends as well but that doesn't stop me from being worried about my past. I know I'm not gay but I can't get it out of my head. Was it just a phase or what????
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2006): no i dont think that you are gay, maybe you were just curious at the time about having sex with a boy, but you know it sup to you to decide your lifestyle or not.
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reader, dpulford +, writes (2 August 2005):
ok being gay is nothing to worry about i have been for years and it has not bothed me but on the other hand you might be bisexual witch means you are attracted to both male and female wich again is normal and nothing to worry about but at the end of the day it is up to you to chose wich one you are
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2005): I admire you for asking yourself about this, you know to face up to the fact you had and experience with a boy and at such a young age! I'm a girl, 21 and when I was 13 I had an experience with a girl and I still think now, am I gay or bi-sexual because of what happened in my past? But I am seeing a man, I'm very happy! It's mainly curiosity I think. You see if you like it; if you do, then fair enough, if you don't, thats fair enough too! At the end of the day it doesn't matter what you are, it's who you are. If you're gay, bi or straight, people should love you for you! Take care hunni.xx
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reader, Kitten-Man +, writes (26 April 2005):
Ok. I go to a boys' school (Which really sucks ass) and a very good majority of boys, especially in my year (12,13,14) flirt like crazy. They talk about boners, foreskin and sexual things around each other and pretend to bum each other. However, I know they are not gay (well, most aren't) but are getting used tothe sudden urge to have sexual intercourse.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 April 2005):
 My understanding is that quite a few lads experiment sexually with other guys their age, when they're about 12, 13 or 14. After that, you develop more confidence with girls and this kind of thing tends to fade into the background.You're the only one who can tell if you're actually gay or have leanings that way. If you find men and boys more attractive than women and girls your age, that's a pretty clear sign. But if you really fancy girls and just have a rather-embarrassing experience or two in your background, you're probably hetero and just learning to deal with the rush of testosterone. That would put you squarely in the majority of straight guys.Whatever happens, don't worry! Being a nice person is the objective of life. Being gay or straight is less important, as long as you're happy with yourself and your choices.Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2005): First of all, don't worry! Adolescence is a time for learning and I think you have learned so much already. Fifteen and having had sex already is really young. However, I am more inclined to think that your "experience" was more out of curiosity than anything. Whether it was a phase or not depends on you. Are you denying any feelings or possibilities that you could be gay? Was this just an experimental phase indeed? If it was strictly out of curiosity, which is very common in puberty (extreme hormones), don't worry. Many people have had sexual contact with a person of the same sex and they did not end up gay, but totally heterosexual.If you are extremely happy in life, successful and healthy, think about it gay or not, what is really important here?Good luck!
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