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writes: My girl friend and I have been dating for a little over a year now. For the longest time in the relationship everything was perfect but recently it seems that something is missing. We both realize this but can't pinpoint what the problem is. We also fight a lot mor than we used to and our fights are not very productive. We graduate from high school in 3 weeks and we are both thinking it might do us some good to take a break from each other for the summer before we go off to college together in the fall. I think that during this break there should be a "No dating other people" rule but she does not seem to agree on that. I am just afraid that if I let her go she won't come back to me. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2005): Look, you need to realize that this situation is a complex one... on the one hand you lose the woman you love... on the other hand you could lose your chance at having a happy productive life. I am plagued by the same problem and I will just tell you this my friend... if she keeps giving you the cold shoulder and gets upset at you for leaving for college, think about this, "if I go I may lose a woman I love, but isn't it "'better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all...'" I mean it will hurt for a long time... but you can use this time to your advantage. Enjoy having your freedom, hang out with friends, make new friends and realize that you had something more special than most people ever have in a lifetime. I know that sounds like a bad point but come on, lets face it. If she is upset with you for wanting to better yourself and make yourself a more productive and well rounded individual, don't you owe it to yourself to let her go and do what it takes to be you? Because it sounds to me as if you are loosing yourself... and what made her fall in love with you in the first place.
I am try offer this insight because I am in a similar circumstance. The woman I love is changing her mind almost every half hour as to wheather she wants to go to school or not and if she wants things that she needs an education and a better job to help her pay for. She seems to be bypassing her collegiate life because she is afraid... afraid that just because I want to go to college and do things at college that are important to me, that I am trying to leave her... she keeps wasting the time that we have to spend together now and be happy, by turning out time together into a blame fest with her blaming me for not wanting to be with her just because I want to go to college. And for those of you out there who think there must be something else goin on... the only other thing is we are engaged... she lights up the room like no woman ever has... just think it over dude.
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reader, msmcllstr +, writes (25 April 2005):
If she loves you she'll come back. xxx
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reader, Kmoney18 +, writes (25 April 2005):
If both of your thoughts are mutual, and you both think it would be a good idea for the both of you to take a break, then I dont see why not. However, you have to accept the fact that she wants to date other people, mabey she is just trying to find out if your really the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with. Being that it sounds like she wants to date other people, you should do the same, you might find that there is someone else out there for you to, this whole world is full of people that you might like just as much if not more.I understand that it is hard just to let her go, wondering if she will ever come back to you. Just hang in there and dont presure her to much to make up her mind, in the long run she will realize that you care about her more than anyhing else.Good Luck!
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