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writes:i just broke up nearly 2 wks ago with my partner of 3yrs and 8 months.we had finally moved in togteher but we had finacial probs cause i couldn't find work and i hated where we lived due to noisy neighbours above us.he broke up with me saying he coudln;t live with me and didn't want to be with someone walking on eggshells.i thought w were in love, we connected so deeply all those yrs back.he hasn't called me but when we parted he said we could still talk.I know its only 2 wks but i think I'll never be in life again.we had so much in common and to be honest I don't think i'll find another like him.he had faults but I loved him and I feel he is my soulmate.so is there any chance for us.I wanted to do counselling but he just has given up on me.saying i would never of been happy wherever I was living and that just isn;t the case.I tried so hard I made the unit we were living in with nice things and I brought all the cuttlery and stuff we needed .he basically threw me out and i'd moved my life to be with him. What do I do now?
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reader, loonman4  +, writes (24 May 2010):
I think the pain will subside after time goes by, it always does. I know from personal experience. This guy had other reasons for bailing on you that I'm sure had nothing to do with you. The best thing is get out to social activies not just with your friends.
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 He sounds like a jerk. I'd hate to be in your position. You don't need to be with him because you don't have a job and you're dependent on him. Look at how he is treating you?? Go out and get a career and a job yourself. You're not even married to this man and you've moved in with him. When you're doing everything for him - cooking, laundry, sex, do you expect him to marry you?? No, because men are lazy.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 May 2010):
You need to move on. Look at what this man did. You were having problems, and instead of dealing with them he just made a run for it. I suspect that there is more to this than he is letting on. There is no chance for you, and you need to move on. Get back out there with friends and just have fun. You will get over him. He's clearly not your soul mate, because when it mattered he made a run for it. You didn't like it where you were living, and he chose not to deal with the problem but run instead. So it's clear you can do better. Get out there with friends, focus on your career. Do anything to make your own life better and accept that he has gone. Even if he does come back, don't take him back. If you do, you'll just waste even more time. Move on.
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