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writes:I dont know what to do! I dont think i love boyfriend anymore. We are engaged and have a 3 month old baby!It's such bad timing! I want my son to have his father around and ive stayed in this relationship for him! But i'm not sure i can do it anymore, it's not that my boyfriend is a horrible person, he's the sweetest guy ever, he would do anything for me and his son! I'm currently not working and he works every hour he can for us and doesnt complain! If i ask him for anything he will buy it straight away.But..he is very possessive and i feel i can't do much, even going out with my friends he doesnt like! Also, i dont feel anything for him sexually, when he tries to kiss me i just push him away! I'm always thinking how my life would be with someone who i really love! I dont know what to do, it will kill him if i try to break up with him! I've tried 2 or 3 times befor and its never happend he guilts me into staying with him, he cries and begs on his knees! What can i do?? I feel so trapped! Also, what about our son? He needs his dad there! Also without him, i wouldnt be anywhere! I have to look after my baby so i cant work! Please help. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): dont worry everything falls in its place, im in the same situation u r now, only we have a 1 y/o, trust me dont stay in the relationship for the baby, it doesnt work that way, i also feel the same way, when he trys to kiss me i just push him away=/.........i also met sum one i liked and i am gunna try with him soon after i tell my bf, and i dont have a job iether, just see what u can do and who can help to get u on ur own feet, this stuff happens allt he time ok
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Our lives are so similar, except for the fact that I still feel love and sexual attraction for my boyfriend. We're young, have babies and guys that want to marry us and get really upset when we threaten to leave.
But my boyfriend knows that I will not stay with him for the sake of our baby. Two happy homes is better than one unhappy home. I believe bringing a child up where the parents are together but don't really love each other can be more damaging than a split. Your sons father can still be a big part of your babies life if your not together anymore.
I don't really have advice where it comes to needing your fiance for financial support because you say you can't work.
You need to remember that you also deserve happiness and that you're young. We deserve to enjoy our youth and celebrate it by hanging out with our friends and being with people that we really want to be with.
If you decide to leave tell him everything. Tell him he's amazing and you couldn't have hoped for a better father for your son but you need to find your happiness.
I hope I helped just a little bit
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reader, *$Maurice$*  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Wow reading that I can't help but say something......listen to this if you don't love your boyfriend but u wud still do anything for him why not just keep asking him to go out with your friends and tell him if he do love you as much as he do he should just respect that you wanna go out with your friends once and a while so u could have a good time with them so it could keep you mind off ur boyfriend and with a man that wud get on his knees 2stay with u he must care about u. Or tell him 2 take a day off and hav a romantic time 2gether.
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