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*utelittlegreeneyes09
writes:I am very confused. I have tried to masturbate in the past, but, I am worried I am doing something wrong. My boyfriend and I have sex alot, but I am confused on how to masturbate properly. I am 18 and have tried to masturbate since iwas 14. My bofriend and i started have sex last year. Reply to this Question
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reader, tra40d  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 Satindesire, as usual, has hit the spot (no pun intended)!I would like to offer a little addition to that, if I may?A task for you; just a simple one... Tonight, when you are alone and not likely to be disturbed, I want you to examine your pussy. Closely. Prop yourself up in bed, and part your legs but closes your heels together. In other words, like frogs legs. This opens up your pussy nicely, and your together heels give you something to prop a mirror on - although you may need a cushion as well. Get it so that you can get a clear view of your wide-open pussy, and start to expose your clit. Take a good look at things so that you can see every detail: how the hood covers it, what you need to expose it, how your lips fold and wrinkle - all that sort of thing. I bet you haven't had a really good look before? When you have inspected fully, just try playing with your bits and finding out how to give yourself most pleasure. Pay attention to your clit especially: the tip is especially sensitive, but it often matters which side you rub, too. (Yes, Satin?) Open really wide and go in search of your g-spot. Another area of controversy here. ALMOST all women achieve intense orgasms via g-spot stimulation, but there are some for whom it does very little. Hope that won't be you.Feel along the front wall of your vagina, inside you, for a roughened area of skin. Everywhere else will be smooth, and if you are at all aroused it should be a little plump, too.What you do now is up to you. You can leave it at that, if you are strong-willed enough, or go on to find out what stimulates you to orgasm! Also, maybe a little difficult for you to implement yourself, but easy for the b/f; get him to put a finger or two on your g-spot and apply pressure. Then his thumb on your clit and clamp them together, like pincers.Retaining this grip, have him pump back and forth with his hand so as to give both clit and g-spot maximum stimulation, and keep going until you reach your goal.....Have fun, and tell me about it, please. Ron.65.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): I am confused. If you are orgasming with him, then how can you also be "almost climaxing"? It doesn't sound like you are fulfilled sexually. As for positions, girl on top always works for me. This way, you are in charge of how things progress. Take a look at the scarleteen website.
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reader, cutelittlegreeneyes09 +, writes (10 February 2009):
cutelittlegreeneyes09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, I am orgasming with him, but no matter what I try, nothing works. Also are there any psitions we could try, because when I orgasm with him, I almost reach climax and that's it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): You are missing the point of masturbation. It isn't some feat you have to accomplish, it isn't a chore. It's something you do because it feels good. So technically anything goes, if you find that it turns you on. No offense but it seems strange that at your age, and having lots of sex with your boyfriend, you haven't figured out what makes you feel good sexually. Are you orgasming during sex with him?I suppose if you are fulfilled with the sex you have with your boyfriend and haven't found anything you like to do by yourself, then that's just fine. But I have a suspicion that you are missing out!!Buy a mirror, get some KY, go the sex shop and buy whatever looks fun to you, get a book or three on female orgasms, read some erotica/porn... Don't put any pressure on yourself, though. Just always keep in mind that it's supposed to be fun and about you and your pleasure. If it's not fun anymore, you've missed the point.
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