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*istressNataliee
writes:Hey, I've got a boyfriend who I've been with for 5 months but about 3 months ago i got friends with a guy on the net, we hit off right away, swapped numbers and i got a crush on him. Me and my boyfriend are really open so i told him and he was supportive in helping me get over this crush.A few weeks later, this guy told me he had strong feelings for me so we decided not to text, a few days later he told me he was in a relationship with this pregnant girl who he was close mates with but she is a right cow, ive had to pick him up so many times when shes hurt him bad and shes blamed it on her hormones. I believe she is using them to get out of being a cow. Anyway, i told him what i thought of this relationship and we didnt text. Today, i got a text saying "im sorry x". To cut it short, he misses me, doesnt know how he feels about me, doesnt know how he feels about her. I really like him, but as a friend only, i dont have a lot of friends and feel like he really understands me, hes helped me thru a lot. Right, to the problem, he just told me that when he masturbates, or worse, has sex with his girlfriend he thinks of me and has to keep his eyes open to distract himself. I dont want to lose him as a friend, but i dont think its fair on his heavily pregnant girlfriend and i dont want him doing this sort of thing. I'm disgusted!! Thank you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): I agree with satindesire:"This isn't just a friendship if he's detailing the fact that he thinks of you when he's having sex with his girlfriend."This guy wants to live out a fantasy with you, but you are getting yourself involved and lying to yourself that you are just friends. When his wife is in the hospital due to pregnancy complications, and he's calling you on the phone wondering what bra you are wearing today or missing your face, just think about this: what if your boyfriend behaves like that one day to you?Work on your relationship instead and tell this 'friend' to go do the same.
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reader, MistressNataliee +, writes (12 August 2009):
MistressNataliee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo satindesire are you saying you have no guy friends? We are only friends and my boyfriend is fine with that, i fail to see how you deem it innapropriate.
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