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writes:I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time yesteday, i don't think he went all the way but he said he did cum. I'm so worried i don't know what to do! I can't tell my parents, and i don't know if i can go doctor's without them? HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): Age 13-15.....you shouldn't even be having sex. You can buy a home pregnancy test at your local pharmacy and you can take the test up to 5 days before your period is due...you don't have to wait a week after you've missed it. Take this as a lesson for you. Next time you have sex, use a condom...not only to prevent getting pregnant, but to prevent catching a disease!! You can also tell your parents to take you to see a gyno and be put on the pill. Simple reason for this is to regulate your periods and to help with the pms pain. Good luck and I hope you are not pregnant.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (4 May 2008):
 you should be able to go to the school nurse and get help. but can i ask where the condom was? try and remember next time so that this doesn't happen again hun :]
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reader, malvern +, writes (4 May 2008):
 If you are worried about pregnancy you can only wait until your next period. If that is over a week late you can go to a chemist and buy a pregnancy testing kit. If that were to prove positive then you must go to a doctor and seek help. It would also be best to tell your parents - they may be annoyed but they also love you and after the shock I'm sure they will help you. However, none of this may happen. A woman is at her most fertile for a couple of days about 14 days after the onset of a period but always use contraception of some type at all times. I hope you are okay though, and if you are, let this all be a lesson to you.
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reader, anonymousme  +, writes (4 May 2008):
Hi
Yes you can go to the doctors without them its called doctor patient confidentiality agreement if not try researching some planned parenthood clinics and they'll be able to locate one for you. I hope that you do go to talk to one of your parents if not both because this is something very serious and at your age sex is not something that you should be worried about especially since you don't even feel comfortable talking to your parents about and if you don't know if he went all the way.
Hopes this helps
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reader, lah mouw +, writes (4 May 2008):
 I'm looking at your age 13-15, and considering that, if you're this anxious over it then you shouldn't be having sex.
If you're afraid you're pregnant you can take a simple store bought test, or you can go to a clinic which is confidential.
If you're just freaking out and in shock because you had sex, maybe you should take that to heart and reconsider further actions.
Did he use a condom? because if he did, you have nothing to worry about.
wrap it before you tap it.
no glove no love, baby!
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reader, hoplesslydevoted  +, writes (4 May 2008):
 You need to make your parents aware of your situation, at the very least, your mother.
Maybe the pill should be a priority now that you're sexually active and also findout out about STD's. People always think it'll never happen to them but there's just no way to be sure.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (4 May 2008):
 Well, why didnt you both use protection?
Protection is there for us all, not to look at or to put on display but to use and to stop STD's..
Come clean with your parents about it, sorry but this is a mess you and your bf got in to and so you need to stand up for what you did and take responsibility for your actions.
When havin unprotected sex, you risk bein pregnant AND more than likely gettin an STD (STD's effect your whole life not just abit of it).
So you both need to come clean about this to your parents, then see a doctor and after that get a check-up done asap and hope your not pregnant and that you dont have an STD.
Really, doesnt anyone take sex education classes anymore.
Next time, try to be more thoughtfull about usin protection, its your life and body look after them.
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