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writes:I live with a guy, he tells me he loves me but he never wants to kiss me or have sex with be but he wants me to give him oral sex when he watchs porn. He sometimes has sex with other girls! We have been living together 5 months. Should I leave him? I don't think he loves me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): what a shame for you and the last woman who replied, it often seems to be the way with men who will tell you anyting for a blowjob or a bit on the side to use at their own discretion, I am happy for the last woman who realised that her user hadn't taken the best of her and at least she has her pride back by making sure her husband has had so much more than this user ever got she seems to have taken so much comfort from this I hope her story helps you and you end up in time like her an take life back for yourself great to see positve stories and outcimes. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): How horrible for you, I was in a similair situation, only was having an affair,only he was very nice about it,but always wanted to go somewhere quite with me telling me he loved me and how special I was, but everytime I was with him he would always get something for himself, I had oral sex once to start with and then he would have ways of getting me to do it time after time for him, he never wanted to date me or even have a meal together, it was always get away at anytime and then any form of sex he could get from me, I thought at the time my feelings were real but after it when he broke of all contact and wanted me no more in his life I relised how much he had used me for sex and oral sex,he wasn't as direct and rotten as your man but he did exactly the same used me for his own gratification,I am now glad to be away from him as I relise that very nice as he acted he only used me to get blowjobs and anything else that was on offer without having respect me for it, I thought he did but I meant nothing to him really. I walked away ended up in pieces had to tell my husband as my life was a mess and have now had to re-build my life,I look back on this with shame and regret but at least I know that I will never be used again by a man to gratify his own selfish needs.Don't let yourself be used and walk away,he doesn't love you and as I found out 2 way love is much better than someone pretending to love you then get what he can.I have made ammends sorted my life out, shook my marriage to the foundations, but at least I am with my husband who loves me and I love him more than at any stage,I happily have oral sex with him and because the way this man used me, I make sure that I put twice as much into it because I want my husband to get the real thing and at least think to myself that this user never really got everything from me and I had so much more to give. I hope you find a real man and really know what you do is for real and not just to gratify his lust rather than love.
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reader, taraness88 +, writes (23 February 2009):
He does not love you, you should leave him. He is disrespecting you and is not worth your time at all. :/
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (23 February 2009):
 Start packing now. This guy does not love you and he does not respect you.
Find your self respect and leave this loser.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (23 February 2009):
 Think about where you hope to be in another 5 months - is it likely to be much different if you stay in this realtionship or will you just be evn more unhappy?
Go and find someone who can give you what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Darling tell him to xxxx off and do it with style.this isnt right and you posted the question so you know it to.having sex with other ladies is not good but asking you for a blow job whilst watching porn is the real answer to your question.he isnt making love to you is he?Get a real lover babe.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 No I don't think he loves you. I don't even think he's attracted to you anymore. You would be wise to leave. You deserve better.
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reader, lena1 +, writes (22 February 2009):
 dont waste your time with him just leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): The answer is yes, leave him now! No one who truly cares for you would sleep with other people. I don't want to jump to conclusions but if you're completely okay with him sleeping with other women and the fact that he just doesn't show affection towards you is the only thing that's bothering you then perhaps you should just express your need for more affection. But I have a feeling that's not the case and there is no way you should allow anyone to treat you so poorly. Trust there are other fish in the sea, that will truly love you and will treat you with respect. Life is way to short to go through what you're going through, so find someone who makes you happy!
Hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): You have to! Dont just waste ur time.Sorry to say this but i think he/s using you.
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reader, didda123 +, writes (22 February 2009):
 I would honestly put an end to this relationship love is a lot more than saying i love you once in a while.
You must will be feeling very low because of his attitude. There will definately be someone else out there who will show you the love you deserve but the longer you continue with this relationship the lower your self esteem will become until you think that is all you deserve.
You are missing out so much on a new more fulfilling relationship which will be possible if you were free to persue one.
Your partner has no respect for you whatsoever if he can treat you like this and you are letting him get away it so for your own self-esteem be strong and please get out now!
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reader, martini175 +, writes (22 February 2009):
Oh dear. Im so sorry. Ive missed a major part out of your question! (THE OTHER GIRLS)!!!! Hun this guy clearly does not care for you. by all means take the other points in my previous answer into consideration but in my opinion if hes having sex with other girls and not you then you are not someone he truly cares about and he is only using you. LEAVE HIM!!! good luck
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reader, martini175 +, writes (22 February 2009):
I think that you are a very strong person to allow a man to treat you in this way. I couldn't do it. You MUST either tell him how his actions make you feel and see what he does. Too be honest for him to treat you in this way in the first place does not sound like he loves you at all. I think you should leave him before it gets worse. The longer you are with someone the more attached you will get to him and the habits of being with each other, therefore the harder it will be to leave. Way up the pros and the cons of being with him and then decide. A relationship involves many things and affection is one of them things. if he loves you like he says he can show u through kisses and cuddles as well as sex. I think its very open of him to watch porn in front of you and to involve you, I guess this is than doing it behind your back, unless this makes u feel uncomfortable? How does he show u affection? and is ur relationship mostly good apart from this? It could be that he is shy when it comes to the bedroom department but im not sure. All you can do now is either call it day or have a proper talk with him explaining how you are feeling and see what he suggests. If he gets all defensive that I would take that as he is not worth it. If he suggests ways to improve the situation perhaps give you relationship with him one more go. Do what you think will make you happy in the long run. Good luck x
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reader, martini175 +, writes (22 February 2009):
I think that you are a very strong person to allow a man to treat you in this way. I couldn't do it. You MUST either tell him how his actions make you feel and see what he does. Too be honest for him to treat you in this way in the first place does not sound like he loves you at all. I think you should leave him before it gets worse. The longer you are with someone the more attached you will get to him and the habits of being with each other, therefore the harder it will be to leave. Way up the pros and the cons of being with him and then decide. A relationship involves many things and affection is one of them things. if he loves you like he says he can show u through kisses and cuddles as well as sex. I think its very open of him to watch porn in front of you and to involve you, I guess this is than doing it behind your back, unless this makes u feel uncomfortable? How does he show u affection? and is ur relationship mostly good apart from this? It could be that he is shy when it comes to the bedroom department but im not sure. All you can do now is either call it day or have a proper talk with him explaining how you are feeling and see what he suggests. If he gets all defensive that I would take that as he is not worth it. If he suggests ways to improve the situation perhaps give you relationship with him one more go. Do what you think will make you happy in the long run. Good luck x
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