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writes:Hey cupid, I need a great advice, I have been in a relationship for 2 years one of friendship with a boy of UK... we find each other random in one of the online games groups. The point is that we care so much about each other.4 months ago we became more close. We speak almost every day, I live in Panama and he lives in UK. He calls me, we both write emails to each other and every night we see each other in webcam... The thing is I'm falling in love with him or at least of the idea and he is feeling the same.. but it's too difficult because of the distance... I'm going to study my postgraduate program in UK in about one year..... We decided to date other people because of the distance. Actually I'm not dating anyone.... now he is.... with a girl that is a good friend of his. He told me that he still thinks and feels I'M the one and things will be so different if I was there.... because he is in love with me....!!! I don't know what to think... at the same time I feel terrible because of the other girl.... in a way he is cheating on her... or at least lying...
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 It's definitely hard to create and maintain a long distance relationship. Unfortunately, this is the general truth. The problem these days is that technology has allowed us to communicate over the distances more efficiently, but has no way to replace the human contact element... and literally, your mind is going to fill in those little gaps... including building perhaps an over-inflated idealist image of the person at the other end of the email and webcam.
So, with all that said, I really think that's not too much you can do about this situation/relationship until you really are in UK. If you are truly interested in developing a traditional relationship with this guy, I would say that you need to maintain the communication as best you can until you are there. Yeah, it sucks, but you both agreed that seeing other people was allowed.
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