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writes:I am a 50 year old woman. I have been divorced for a few years and have recently moved in with a man. He is in his late 50's. The relationship is one of the most sane, peaceful ones I've ever had. My problem is this, I am becoming more aware that perhaps he is not sexually satisfied by me. I have had a number of very sexually satisfying relationships and really never got too many complaints. this guy often doesn't achieve orgasm when we have sex. Last night, after messing around for about 30 minutes, he left the room and I'm pretty sure went to the bathroom to masturbate! This, naturally, has destroyed my ego and makes me want to bail on the relationship. Is there any chance my thinking is skewed and his behavior is just an age thing?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Seriously,CaringGuy ? The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak -in his 50s ? Whoa. No wonder so many women go cougar these days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Well do you KNOW that he went to the bathroom to masturbate or are you assuming? I'm not old enough to know whether that behavior is normal, but I do know that it can take months to "get used" to a new partner and be able to orgasm. Does for me anyways :P, and my last partner was awesome in bed and I found her incredibly attractive. My point is, you should try not to take him not orgasming personally.
Best of luck :)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 May 2010):
It's more likely that at his age, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak, as the saying goes. A lot of women blame themselves when a man doesn't seem satisfied. The truth is that 99.9% of the time, it has nothing to do with the woman. Don't bail on it just because of this. Look at the relationship as a whole. I really doubt that this is your problem. I think it's more likely to be his.
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