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writes: i dont seem to be able to trust my boyfriend. i love him and i trust him with my life but when it comes to other women being around him it drives me crazy. anywhere where hes goin out with girls and friends and things, i want to be there. There hasn't been one relationship I've been in so far that hasn't had my boyfriend leave me for some other girl. This man I have right now is so perfect but I can't let myself relax, even if the girl isn't pretty I'm afraid she likes him. He wouldn't do anything but when hes out i get SO depressed and i cry al the time and have constant pictures in my head of them. i think he gets sick of me goin on about it everytime he wants to go somewhere but i dont know wot to do. I cant stop it. I tell myself over and over that he loves me and i know he does and i love him. I know he wouldn't do these things but i cant stop thinking about it. How can i stop? please help
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reader, misrable  +, writes (6 May 2007):
 i would love to be able to give you some helpful advise but im in the same boat you're in. i dont trust my husband as fas as i could throw him, i do not have a reaon not to. i'm like you i wanta be involved in everything, i want to know whats going on and being said. i would love to just lock him up and hide him from the world. the only advise i can give you is to try your best to start trusting him now, so you don't end up like me, trying to learn to trust after 13 years of not trusting. i'm on the verge of losing my husband, my 3 childrens father, my life, everything all because i do not have the ability to trust him. i wouldn't want you to have to endure the pain i have right now because of this. talk to your man and explain to him that you have to have his help and you have to take baby steps and to remember that you are trying and not to hold it against you if you slip in your process of change. GOOD LUCK TO YOU i hope things will improve soon.
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reader, natnatxxx  +, writes (2 May 2007):
 Its ok to feel insecure about your man being around other women, but its time to cheer up. the best thing to do is talk to him about it. Get all your feelings off your chest, and cut down on the stress your putting on yourself. If you still dont trust him, there is no point carrying out this relationdship. because there is no point if there is no trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): I can totally relate! I have always had trouble trusting the men I'm with and some of them really were devoted to me. So I know jealousy, and this type of insecurity Can eat away at the relationship. And you don't want that! You must train yourself not to let these thoughts run away with you. If he loves you and it sounds like he does, you must start doing some positive imaginery. Everytime you picture some slinky blonde coming on to your b/f, just picture him pushing her away. Picture him getting up and walking away from her. Some men do have willpower, and don't want to jump on every female they meet. It will take time, but it's worth the investment to stop thinking like this before it's too late. Plus you said yourself, he's never given you any reason to think he would cheat on you -- keep telling yourself that and don't give into the paranoia that runs through your mind. I wish you the best.
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