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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I used to be really good friends with this guy in my class. Long story short, we were really close, I fell in love with him, went through a rough period with my family and lashed out at him, and our relationship basically ended. A short while after, he started asking me for help with different things, even though we weren't as close anymore: money, my bike, homework, etc. And even though what I did to him was terrible, I still don't think that justifies him using me and then not treating me like a friend. But it's like even though I can be mad at him and send him texts and emails saying so, I can't ever seem to stay mad at him, and I still worry about how he sees me, because I know he doesn't think very highly of me after what I did to him. But what I don't understand is why I still care what he thinks, and why I can't treat him like I do my other friends? Because I'm 100% sure I don't love him anymore - I don't really think about him and I don't care about him nearly as much as I used to - so why can't I let him go?? I really don't understand why he seems to have such a hold on me and why I always take what he says to heart....
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reader, hope_i_could_help  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 I can only think of these answers;
Maybe because your just lying to yourself and denying that you still love him.
Maybe because you always see him and the feelings are starting to return without you noticing it.
Maybe, because you want to impress him and make him realize that he made a big mistake for breaking up.
Maybe because he's your ex and you had a wonderful experience and memories with him that you can't let go.
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