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writes:I'm the oldest of seven children and I hate it! The last two babies really upset me because I knew my parents would have less time for me (I was right). But I don't want to tell my parents but I really resent that my parents decided to keep cranking out babies. And then I overheard them talking about making another one and I flipped out! I told them I didn't want another baby and they said they will have one if they want. With each baby the pie gets smaller and my parents get more self-rightous I just don't know how I'd react to them getting pregnant again!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (21 August 2008):
 Being the oldest is a real bitch. I'm the oldest of five, and my youngest sister is 16 years younger than me, so I have at least some idea of what you're going through. Well five-sevenths of it, at least.
Unfortunately you have no say in their decision process. I'm sure that your parents love you, but you're right that they do tend to give your younger siblings more attention than they give you. And furthermore, they give YOU the responsibility for helping care for the little monsters ... I mean darlings. You have no authority over what your siblings do, but god help you if anything goes wrong at home while your parents are away. Been there!
The good news is that you're getting to be just about the age where you can walk away from the whole thing and set yourself up as an independent person apart from your parents' home. Get a job and an apartment, or go away to college.
Start making serious plans for this, right now. Figure out what you're going to do, and how, and when. Once you've decided on a course of action, start socializing the ideas to your parents ... dropping hints, and then discussing things with them outright. They are going to have to accept the fact that their oldest child is now virtually an adult, ready to make his own way in the world. Try to keep things friendly with your family if you can, but make it plain that you are planning to have your own life.
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reader, mature teen!  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 I really feel for you! I am the youngest of 5! I wasn't planned and i wasn't wanted! I know how hard it is to feel not part of the family. The older you get the more your parents think you don't need them! thats not true! We do! we need them just as much! Try sitting down and talking to them carmly. Ask them if you could just have a little bit more attention paid to you. Or Go out with you dad one day fishing, playing football ect just you and him. It may help if you do it carmly and not flipping out and trust me i know you feel like doing that like 24/7!!
Best wishes X
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