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writes:My husband is a controlling man and I've had enough and finally ended our unhappy marriage of 20 years. I've met this man while I was divorcing my husband. He is 16 years older than me. He is helpful and supportive at my difficult time. Two years on I find him too old for me and I dont love him any more. I've told him I want to leave him. He was devastated. He didnt take it well and very depressed and beg me to stay. I dont love him but I still care for him. I dont know to stay or go. Please advise.
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reader, jewlstep4174  +, writes (14 April 2012):
 be honest with him. I think you need to move out and let him go. It is the only fair thing to do. It is gonna be really hard since he is much older and the chances are slim he will meet someone else. but you arent his age , you still are in your 50's you can find someone else and with time maybe he can too and he can find someone that will love him, an old friend or something. your happiness matters dont let him guilt you into staying with him.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 You cannot stay if you do not love him, because that would be living a lie.Ok so he helped you at the time of your divorce, but that doesn't mean you owe him yourself as a permanent partner.
Yes it's going to be painful for him and things might get heated, but you should really leave him alone if your feelings have changed. Get out of his home, find your own place and live your own life. If you stay, then really you are just using him and keeping him under a false impression.
Move out, move on.
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