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writes: 2 Weeks ago my bf and I agreed to break it off. I agreed because I thought that he was the reason that i was never happy anymore, and i felt as though I had lost my identity. We've been single for 2 weeks and after the initial 3 days or so when I was enjoying being able to flirt with other guys, i feel 100 times worse than when I was with him. I thought he was the problem, but he was the only thing that was keeping me sane. I know he's enjoying being single and wants to stay that way, but doesn't know for how long. I want to get back together, and I know I'll have a chance with him because there's still a lot of feelings between us. But is it really fair on him? I feel like I no longer love him, but I know I could again in time, but if we were back together again he would be the only thing that is good in my life, and I don't think that's healthy or fair on him. It would make me so happy again though, as I know we're made for eachother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): To be completely honest, I don't think you would have let him go if he was really that special to you. The truth is that no one really likes to be alone, and I suspect that what you really miss is just his companionship. You can't force love, and presuming that one day you may feel as you once did for the guy you say you are made to be with, sounds to me like it may take some serious effort on your part. I don't think that being in love should be so hard. If your feelings for him simply aren't there anymore, perhaps its best that you just move on, rather than play with his heart and risk hurting someone that you obviously care about. That being said, I'm a firm believer in second chances. So if it were me I would just follow your heart. Your life is yours to miss. The best advice I can give is talk to him.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (24 October 2006):
 Don't get back with him for your own selfish reasons. You already say you don't love him, so are you willing to try to rebuild what you had or are you just keeping him around until you find someone else better? It seems to me that you are useing him if you get back with him. How does he feel? I'm sure he would like to know that you don't love him anymore. But let me guess.....you haven't mentioned that right??? Let him go and be happy. Suck up the pain. You will find someone else that you can love. Proof positive that you don't love him is the fact that you won't let him go to find love. He's human and deserves love and happiness. Even if you don't love him as a boyfriend, love him enough as a human being and let him go. Good Luck.
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reader, jack23 +, writes (24 October 2006):
 If you feel that you could love him again, do you believe it would be for the right reasons.
You should question what made your relationship fail the first time, and if it could happen again. If you believe this is a high possiblity then its most prob not a good idea.
What is it that makes you miss him? is it that you like having someone there? the closeness? having someone to turn to?
If these are the things that you want then its worth thing that you can get these things with someone else. If you feel that you genuinely do love him and want him back then you should go for it, just really think and try to make sure you make your decission for all the right reasons, else you can expect a repeat of the past.
Hope this advice is of some help or reassurance :)
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