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writes:my morals have slippped and i don't know who i am any more. :(I used to have really high morals and was too sensible. I got A's in all my gcses but i felt like i was missing out on my youth. I felt a bit trapped, too.so i tried to be as rebelious as possible, i started to party a lot, staying out all night, all sorts. I said to myself i would say yes to every opertunity that came my way. I wanted to live life 'on the edge'.I started studying fine art, and a crazy life style was not only 'cool' but even our teachers kind of encouraged it. anything different and extravegant.Anyway, cut a long story short, i also let my morals slip with respect to sex. I set out to loose my virginity and had a juicy sex life.I became quite experienced and streetwise about everything and thought i was quite cool. But now as i have got older and im about to finish my teenage years i see that this lifestyle leaves you feeling empty.and sure, i have great memories. but the 15 year old me would have been disgraced at who i am now.I really don't recognize myself anymore! what have i done?I don't know what to do. I don't like who i have become. this is making me feel really really sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): it is NEVER too late to change your life aroung. in fact you have started. it will be slow at first but will get easier as you learn to love yourself. you need to slowly start respecting yourself and start loving yourself. what you also need to notice is the poeple around you. who do you associate with. are these people good or bad role models? if bad then you need to cut them off, simply because the value system may be different.
reading inspirational bks and self help ones too may help. it is a long process but the end result will be worth it - you will finally proud to be you and the final evidence will be visible to all, even yourself.
good luck, this is the start of the rest of your life. slowly it will all come together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): thankyou everyone for your words :)
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 Think, you've created a great start to the story of your life. We all make mistakes, we all go through rough stages... so you hit yours, okay. You have probably learned so much in the last few years - you've gained street smarts and juicy stories to dish with the girls. You have gained life experience.
The only thing you can do now is look forward and change your future. If you put your mind in the right place, you can do anything with your life. You're still young and have so many opportunities to do amazing things in your lifetime, so get to them. Someday you'll look back and be proud of pulling yourself up by the boot straps and getting to all the things you'd like to do in life.
I think you've created good memories and now it's time to keep on keeping on. You can only look back and regret things for so long, but nothing changes. Get up, dust yourself off and rise to the top.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, danni12 +, writes (27 May 2009):
we all do things that we regret i have a story that pretty much exactly matches yours you just have to move on and accept that what happened in the past cant change and the only thing that can change is the future
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reader, griffingirl +, writes (27 May 2009):
I had high morals too!! Then a boy with eyes so deep you could swim in them came along. I was hooked. (still am) I am only 12 so I didn't lose my virginity. But even when he dumped me, I loved him, and still do :) I was with him on saturday and we made out, that would be okay if he didn't have a gf.
Sorry I got no advice- but you're not alone.
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