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writes: me and my bf has been going out for almost 11 months, but i still have problems with him hanging out with his friends. I know i'm beeing selfish, but i'm trying so hard to be ok about it. So everytime i hear about him hanging out with them i start getting mad and we end up not talking. Is it because i'm scared that when he hangs out with them, he goin check out girls? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): ME TOO! I have been in this position for awhile. My BF and I have been dating for 3 years. Whenever he wants to go out wiht the guys I get a little upset at first, then when I really think about it, if the tables were turned and he got upset with me when I wanted to go out with my friends I would be turned off. We all need our friends like cd206 said.
He will appreciate you more and enjoy your company more if he has his time with his buddies. :)Hang in there!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (20 April 2007):
 Probably, because that's the reason that has you wondering above all others. The thing is, we all need our friends. I'm sure you wouldn't be too happy if he asked you to stop spending time with your friends just in case you were checking out guys. You need to have trust to make a relationship work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): Probably.You have to get over this insecurity.If he wants you only he will be fine.If not then nuthin you can do anyway.You are more likely to push him away from you and eventually to someone else if you carry on.
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reader, rach91  +, writes (20 April 2007):
I'm the same way...I think its because when guys are with their friends they're more like guys than they are w/ u one on one...like I've caught my guy checking out girls be4 and I don't tell him that I saw I just get mad and then he asks me why I'm mad and then I eventually tell him...so if he does that in front of u imagine wat he does when ur not there...if u guys are in love and he treats u good then u have to trust him and let him do wat he wants cuz then ur gonna get on his nerves if u keep on whining about it and honestly would u want 2 be w/ some1 that's that insecure...well that's my opinion hope I helped...good luck!!!
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reader, macboy  +, writes (20 April 2007):
 It may be hard to trust him, but giving your boyfriend trust builds on the relationship.
Just like you want your parents to trust you, he wants you to trust him.
If you want him to sacrifice his friends for you, you do the same for him.
It shows you are mature, and he will respect that.
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