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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and we have sex on a regular basis but the problem isn't him...it's me! I'm ok with the having sex part but I hate going on top and I don't like giving blow jobs or hand jobs either...the thought of it just grosses me out. He knows I don't like giving them or being on top, but I feel so horrible...like he is always giving and I just take. I want to be able to please him too but I'm scared. I have never given head or hand jobs before and I don't know if it is that which makes me not want to give them or simply the fact that I just don't like the idea of it. Please help me! What should I do? :( xxxx
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (27 May 2009):
Hmm..i've always looked at being on top as being more beneficial to the girl then to the guy.. You're in complete control, and able to insure that you get off, ya know? I've always found that when the girl is on top, she goes till she gets off, and then we role over and keep going from there.. You don't necessarily have to stay in one position for the whole round! :)
Also, the longer you spend in a relationship with the someone, the more changing things up becomes appealing..Just doing it all the same way over and over will eventually become boring for one or both of you..It may seem weird at first, but you'd be surprised what you may discover you like!
As for the oral and hand jobs, eh alot of women don't realize what a true art oral sex is...It takes alot of experience and practice before you're truly good at it.
Just be patient and work at it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): Just a thought but could be you're with the wrong guy. I personally think, if you really love someone, you would do, nay enjoy doing, anything for them. Have a long, hard think about the relationship you are in.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNothing has happened in my past that mwould cause this. It's not the sex i don't like...it's just different positions other than missionary. And i just don't like the idea of giving head or hand jobs. I don't know why though as i have never given one before. What can I do to over come this worry or nervousness about it all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): It sounds like you find sex repulsive... has something in your past turned you off sex or were you brought up to believe that sex is dirty???
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