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writes:ok strange thing..... me and my wife have been together since we were 16 and i've always known she has never masurbated because i've asked her outright but honesty couldn't believe her at first but did eventually. Well she was away on this trip with school as shes a teacher and got very down and upset but has no idea why. she said it came on suddenly and just wanted to coem home but became uncontrolable and admitted she masturbated accidently and felt extremely bad about it as if it was like betraying me and hated it. The reason it was accidental was because she went for a shower one reason because she needed one, two because the other 2 she was sharing the room with were out at the time and three, because by that time she was virtually in tears and couldn't hide it any longer and didn't want anyone too know. Anyway she said how it happened was she was having a shower and put the shower head on the floor because those showers are very awkward and as alot of people find out when water sprays up between there legs it feels nice and she said it just seemed to calm her down. Well one part of me is trying to figure out what brough the upset on and at the same time i try to keep telling her i don't mind the fact she did that and i wouldn't mind if she did it again, as many times as she likes. its not a problem to me she just can't see that, what can i do? I don't know why she feels this way but she said when she was young she always know it was never something she would do because that feeling of pleasure it gives is supposed from be from me. What do i do here? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): I agree with hopeful romantic, but I am just wondering (I doubt I am right, but just I'll give it a shot...) is she still upset at the fact that you are okay with the fact that she lied? Maybe she just is afraid of a dishonest relationship. Other than that I think she is very faithful and is just being sensative because she does love you and care for you.
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reader, Hopeful Romantic  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 She sounds like a very faithful, honest woman. She needs to understand the fact that almost every body does this, even married people. Maybe let her know that if she is away on another trip that you don't mind her doing that, but if she gets the urge while she is at home, that's what you're here for and you can please her any time. Maybe that will help reassure her.
Hope so!
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