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writes:Hey, im sorry guys if these seems stupid but i really need some help. There is this trainee teacher at school and everyone says he likes me far too much. He asks everyone where i am if he cant see me and he always comes to sit with us at lunch to talk to me. He makes me do tasks for him at break and then just stares at me, for example writting on the board and stuff. He even gave me a hat from home and told me to keep it, he keeps saying jokey things about fancying me and the way he looks at me is horrible, and he always does it!Please help because i dont know what to do, i know he is only there for a while but its horrible to have it happen to you every day.thanksxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, hello1 +, writes (8 December 2007):
 Tell someone off this guy! if he like this when he's trainee, think about when he becomes an actual teacher. I put in an world of complaint to the head.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 December 2007):
 Now would be a good time to start practicing how to give someone a polite but firm brush off. Find a table at lunch that doesn't have room for your teacher. When he asks for you to do tasks for him at break, tell him that you have already made plans or don't have time because of homework. You don't owe him any explanation. Bring his hat back to him and tell him that you can't accept it. No explaination is necessary. When he makes inappropriate remarks that are a bit forward, turn on your heels and leave! You are a student, he is a teacher and he is being out-of-line. If he continues after you have demonstrated to him that you want him to stop, tell other teachers that you trust. Right now, I think that you should tell your parents that he is making you uncomfortable. Please make sure that you never put yourself in a position where you are alone with him, and don't accept anything from him in the future, especially rides home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): hey hun
well from what you have just said it looks pretty clear this guy has a bit of a thing for you! and im afraid that if he is your teacher then there probably isnt a lot you can do. A few things that might help -
1) if he asks you to stay behind to write on the board simply reply "no thanks" or say your busy.
2) lunch and breaks when he sits with you guys can be avoided if you all go somewhere else. or fill up the whole table so he cant come over as there wont be any room
3) see if your friends have noticed your teachers behaviour. the more people that know, the more you will feel protected
4) if you start getting freaked out, make sure you tell your teachers and anyone else you can. hey it may even work if you spark your other teachers awareness of the situation if you get one of your friends to jokily say around them that some teacher has taken a bit too much of a shine to you! at least you know you will have other people keeping an eye.
this guy might just be having some harmless fun but if you dont like it, stay as clear as poss
hope that kinda helped and stay safe!
x
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reader, Megan Deetes +, writes (7 December 2007):
 Yes i'm sorry to say but there is something wrong with this guy you need to do something or the next thing you know he could be touching you and you do NOT want that. I'd make a private comaplint to a senior member of staff and take a friend who has witnessed these things with you that way you will not be required to be confronted infornt of the teacher you can say that you want this conference to be kept confidential and do not want your name to be used. You shouldn't have to worry about this sort of thing in sixth form/college
If you need further help message me
xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): Being a trainee teacher myself I know how hard it is to try and fit in at a school and get the students to both like and respect you - there is a chance that this guy is just being a bit overzealous with trying to be a good teacher. Still, you should never ever have to be in a situation that you are uncomfortable with - so don't find yourself alone with him just incase.
Best wishes.
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