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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my bf for over 3 years and you'd think by now we'd stop fighting but it's just getting worse. I hate it when he drinks because he's just stupid and I can't talk to him, not to mention, our first new years together i woke up to find him sleeping next to another girl. (They didn't have sex) but he shouldn't of got that drunk in the first place. He's said things to me like 'do u trust me?' and i'll say yes and then in the next 5 minutes he's in a cab and won't answer his phone to tell me where he is. He believes that he shouldn't have to tell me where he is, or who he's with or what time he'll be home. This is my first serious relationship and it feels asthough everything that could go wrong, has! I'm extremely insecure and i get a horrible feeling in my stomach when i see him even glance at a girl. The worst part is, I want him to help me and he won't come up with anything he'll ask me, and it's like, if i knew how to make myself feel better, i would have done it already. I don't know what to do, I'm stuck, I don't want to leave but he never fights for me. I'm so depressed!
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reader, mariaxx  +, writes (7 April 2009):
i think you can do better than this guy. When you talk to your boyfreind about issues they shopuld be supportive. It takes two to make a relationship work, you can't do it all by yourself. He is behaving immaturely and your insecurities are only going to get worse if nothing changes, and you are in danger of being emotionally scarred in future.Ask yourself if you truly believe that he loves you and wants the best for you and your relationship. If you can't answer yes to both of those questions immediately then perhaps he is not the one. YOu may want to actually ask him those questions and tell him that you will leave him if things don't change, and stick to it. It's a big world out there, you're still young. If you don't think it's worth salvaging then be brave and think about what YOU need. What do friends/family think about your relationship? Have you / can you talk to them about this?If you do decide it's best to break up of course it will hurt so very very much, but then it gets better and you will soon move on to happier times. It has happened to almost every person in the world at one time or another.Good luck, be strong
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