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writes:This is thoroughly confused again more to my question and in regards to the answer we did have a big problem that made my ex distant and that was that I was listening to very bad advice from a very insecure friend of mine and I started being very insecure which is not how I usually am. Now I don't talk to that friend any more and my ex says that he can tell that I'm back to being the girl that he first met that he fell for, secure and happy and he tells me that if he were ready and in the right place for a serious relationship I would be the perfect girlfriend.We have fun together when we do hang out so my question is does he still have those feelings for me and is he just keeping some distance because he is not ready for a relationship and because he is moving and doesnt want to get too attached again or does he just not care and how do I tell him that I still have those feelings for him without making him more distant before its too late or should I even try to tell him at all. I do have a feeling that he still has those feelings for me but i dont know and I dont know if or how to tell him I still have those feelings for him.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 I think you should just enjoy your time together and don't put too much pressure onto this guy.
You have gone through a transition here with the ex friend of yours making you feel so insecure and probably too clingy (can't say I know what your original message was as was away from the site until yesterday).
You are starting to behave like you again and that was what he said he was originally attracted to. You say he is about to move - how far is he going and would you be able to continue a relationship with him or would it be a long distance relationship?
Before he leaves he may already feel like he knows what your true feelings are but you have nothing to lose by telling him just before he goes as you are then leaving the ball in his court for him to react however he wants to.
I would say though that long distance relationships - if it is that are very hard to maintain, due to the time you get to spend with that person and the journey time.
Keep me posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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