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writes:i've dug myself a hole too deep...this year i started dating a hockey player, he's a really sweet and caring guy and i loved him to death. About a week ago him and a few of his buddies were threw a party and naturally he invited me. We cranked the music, got in trouble from the neighbors, had a little too much to drink... it was all good. He had quite a bit more to drink than i did and eventually passed out on his buddies couch. He was my only ride home so when he passed out i just kept partying and figured i'd spend the night there. When i got tired threw a pillow on the floor beside my bf and fell asleep, though i can't remember when... when my bf gets drunk he sleeps like a rock and can't hear/dosn't wake for anything. I guess i was drifting in and out of sleep but i could hear some guys talking around us, don't remember what about, but when i woke i was not where i had layed down and my period is a few days late (which is not normal for me). I don't want to confront my bf about it because i might just be making assumptions, and these guys are his friends, but i think i might be pregnant... HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007): i know how u feel coz i've been in the same situation but that aside no matter how u think ur boyfriend would feel bout his mates u need 2 b honest! after all honesty is the best policy i kno every1 says it but it's true if ur boyf truly loves u then he'll understand! he left u 2 fend for urself no excuse i kno but he shud have thought of u b4 drinkin himself into a stupa! a few days l8 doesn't mean u are and at the end of the day who says ur boyf isn't the father look woteva happens if u explain wot happened if ur boyf doesn't understand then he's not the guy u thought he was! the truth may hurt but it often does sorry and good luck! xlx
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reader, Darlene  +, writes (26 January 2007):
 first find out for sure if you are pregnant.get tested
for STD's.then go from there.if anything did happen
your bf is also at fault.these are his friends and he
took you there.if his friends would take advantage of
their friends girlfriend while you both were drunk.he
needs some new friends.real friends would never take
advantage of each other like that.you know he sleeps like a rock so you have partyed before.is it possible
that you and your bf had sex?he stopped drinking before
you did. maybe he soberd up before you did. if you are pregnant maybe he is to blame.he may already know find
out the results.then you will know if you should talk to
him.i hope things work for you.
good luck
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reader, Daysie  +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Make sure you don't drink too much next time! Stay in control of your actions, and make sure your drinks don't get 'spiked'. In the UK a new law is being considered whereby a man could be charged with rape if he has sex with a drunk woman, assuming that she is incapable of giving consent. Get a pregnancy test and if you are positive discuss it with your boyfriend as you may need his support. You will only establish who the father is with a DNA test unless you are positive you didn't have sex with another man. Good Luck.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Take a test. When we're anxious our periods are even later so worrying is bad! If the worst happens and you are pregnant don't assume the worst. It's more likely to be your boyfriend's from another sexual encounter. Hearing guys talking when you're sleeping isn't significant and you'd probably have known you'd have sex the next day if you had. If you are pregnant and you can trace the date down to that night then speak to your doctor for advice about DNA tests and how to approach your boyfriend but first thing's first. Take the test. Worrying for no reason will only make it worse.
CD
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reader, lex  +, writes (25 January 2007):
I think you need to pay a visit to your doctor.If you are pregnant you need to confront your bf.Because you missed your period can be stress related and you are probably panicking and your mind is playing games with you. This has happened to me... I missed my period and started to make sense of all types of things that were really fact.
On the other hand you may be correct since you woke up in a different spot.Did you have your clothes on when you woke up? Did your body feel strange?
the best thing to do is to drop whatever you are doing and get to your doctor now! Also take a blood test for any STD's.
Let me know what happens.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): Hi
First, you should feel some reassurance knowing it is way too early to know if you could be pregnant or not. A pregnancy worry can be enough to make your period many weeks late. I know it is easier said than done but you must try and relax and allow your body to have a period.
Also you should try and feel reassured knowing you were drifting in and out of sleep. You would probably remember at least moments if they had done anything sexual towards you. There could also be physical symptoms, were you aware of any, perhaps that you had been sexually excited when you hadn't, or even pain, brusing, marks? any signs such as these? How about your clothing - did you wake up with all your clothes on, and on correctly?
Hold off on confronting anyone until you know if you are pregnant. I think you can take a pregnancy test within 1 or 2 weeks after you are late, but maybe someone else can clarify that.
Whatever happens, I hope this has shown you just how vulnerable you can become when you drink. I could tell you some very brutal and horrific stories of girls who have been raped, assaulted, abused whilst drunk but in an environment they thought was safe. Take care of yourself, OK?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): i shouldnt worry! you sure would of woken if someone had touched you in that way! periods arnt always on time! stress and other things can make them late! the other day my period was like 3 weeks late! and i was worried due to previous events with my bf! so i did a test, and the next day my period started! what a waste of money that was!!! if you confront your bf so soon, thats only going to make him think you dont trust him! only if you feel sick and have the classic pregnancy symtoms should you worry! x
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