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writes:Well its pretty simple...I fancy my best frind who is also my ex. We went out for a few weeks in June then i split up with him. Since then he has been obsessed with me an after everything we are now best friends. But he started going out with someone a few days ago and now i cant stop thinking about him.He and his gf seem perfect for eachother.What do I do?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (25 January 2007):
 If they seem perfect for each other and you're really his friend you have to try and be happy for him. Of course you're thinking what about me? Of course you are, but the problem with being best friends with someone is that you have to support their decisions unequivocally. If you're meant to be he'll come back to you.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Maybe he's on the rebound, since you say he's obsessed over you. But also, maybe he and his new girlfriend are happy together and he just sees you as a friend now. Or is this a case of wanting him back now that someone else has him or do you genuinely want to get back with him? Since he is your best friend you can tell him anything right? So why don't you ask him a few general questions about his new girlfriend and find out what kind of relationship they have and how strong it is. (Don't let on that you want to be with him). Then when you find out you'll have enough information to know wether you should tell him how you feel or not. If you find out that he is really happy with her and they are infact perfect for eachother then I think it would be best if you just let them be and be happy for him. But if you find out he's only with her on the rebound or he's not serious about her then maybe you should tell him how you feel for him and see what he says.
But don't go breaking them up if they are perfectly happy together that would be selfish of you. And also don't tell him how you feel until you're sure that there might still be a chance for you and him. If there isn't then I'm afraid you're going to have to let him go.
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