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writes:Ok so here is the dilema:I have been recently talkin 2 a guy and we haven't made anything official but i know were headed there. Earlier on he had mentioned goin 2 the air force and we discussed that if things got serious with us then we will find a way 2 work it out. So now all of a sudden he is tellin me that he doesn't know if he wants 2 make it official because he is leavin soon and what if he likes it whereve he gets stationed and what if he never wants 2 come back??? My question is wouldn't i be enough motivation 2 come back 2?? Since he had a change of heart all of a sudden does this mean his feelins toward me has changed or were they ever really there?? It just seems he is been really negative about the whole situation. So do i continue 2 be with him til he leaves or shall i just walk away now?? I thought he was someone i could have been with 4 awhile i have never connected with anyone like this b4. Someone help me please
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk thanx for the advice u guys were right i will respect his decison and let him go but i will always be his friend i realized that i rather befriends than nothing at all.....ill keep ya posted on a update
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reader, angel of love  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Here's the truth from my heart...I've been through a relationship with a military guy. You need to see it through his point of view. He's going to start his life and experience new adventures. He's trying to tell you the truth of matter...he may like where he's stationed. It happens. That doesn't mean he didn't like you or doesn't like you. I too am heading to join the AirForce. I'm about to start a relationship with a guy in my hometown. When I leave I may like where I'm going and not want to come back...but that doesn't mean I don't care about him the same way. I'm in love with him and that won't change. But two people's path sometimes head in a different direction. If he likes it where he's stationed and he only comes home because you wanted him to and he doesn't like it quite as much he's not going to be the same guy. You need to let him spread his wings and experience things. If you still have time with him than take it in. In the words of Payton Sawyer..."Every song ends, that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the music." So even if it may end, don't think about the future...don't think of the past. Just take in the time you have now.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (29 August 2008):
 how serious were you expecting things to get? if he loves you, yes you should be enough motivation for him to come back. but with all of these changes happening in his life, he might be letting his excitement overwhelm his feelings for you. it sounds like he isnt ready for a relationship, so respect that and stay good friends. let him go romantically, and give him a chance to miss you! you never know, he might come crawling back.
i hope i helped.
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