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writes:I'm 17 years old and live in the UK. I met a friend online a year ago, he lives in saudi arabia and is the same age as me. we have been in a relationship for just under a year. i love him a lot and the feelings the same, but we are not going to meet and be together for another 3 years because of his studies. I feel as though i'm putting my life on hold whilst waiting for him. now the dilemma is, that i have met another guy who lives in my area, i like him but i dont feel as though i can get close to anyone because of my online boyfriend. i cant tell him how i really feel because he is very sensitive and i dont know what he will do or how he will react if i tell him this. i am very confused on what option to take, any help or advice would be really appreciated.please respond, frm a very confused person. Reply to this Question
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 i wouldnt wait if i where you you hvnt met this guy he might be nothing like what you expect plus hes from suadi arabia they dont have a track record of treating women to good, 3 yrs isnt that long if the guy is really into you stay freinds and time will tell
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Sorry if this sounds like a bad stereotype,however guys from the middle east are really possessive and sensitive.im not surprised you said he is very sensitive. well putting your life on hold and waisting your best years isn't something you should do.besides,if he can't come meet you even ONE TIME in those 3 years,he's not worth it.It's better if you break up now that wait until the relationship wears out.I know it's hard.Or you can keep talking to him and date other guys but i think if you do this you will still be emotionally attached to him.noone will measure up to him,and this is funny because u havent met him in real life so u dont even know if he's all that,u just assume !
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Oh dear.. I find myself in the same predicament as you. My boyfriend lives in another country and I feel as if I put my life on hold for him as well. Three years is a long time to go without meeting someone. I plan to meet my man this year, however. We have only been involved for 8 months.
Is there any chance of you going there to visit him? 3 years without even a visit is a lot of build up to something that may not work out. I say try visit him if he can't visit you, that way you can get the initial feeling. If money is an issue, keep saving, find a part time job, anything.
Really, in this decision, you need to listen to your heart. If you feel you can both wait 3 years, and if you think the wait will be ultimately worth it, then wait. If you you feel that you would rather find love in your own country, then give this new guy a chance.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Set each other free. You are going to run into temptations a lot these 3 years. There is no guarantee he will be living in the UK after his studies. Relationships that remain more than 3 years are rare at your age anyway. End it before it becomes more serious.
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