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writes:hi im 21 and just found out im pregnant, im ok with it but im so nervous about telling my mum and dad, theyr very strict and a bit old fasioned and i feel that they might not approve as iv not been in a proper long term relationship, how can i break it to them gently, i'm currently living with them and i hate that i feel i cant tell them. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): My parents are old fashioned-ish but expected one of us kids to come home sooner or later up the duff and out of wedlock. I just made things very shocking as i wasn't even in a relationship and a well known virgin at the time lol. I'm almost five months pregnant now and my mum has taken it wonderfully although she was in shock and when ever we got into general arguements after she kept saying "well if you are old enough to have sex then you are old enough to ... blah blah blah" lol. She has been a blessing and has got me loads of baby stuff which i am really grateful of. My dad on the other hand has only known for a few weeks and is thus far not talking to me/avoiding me but i think once baby is here it will be different - he will come around. It may be best to do what i did and tell the parent which you think might have the best reaction first, that way they can help support you to tell the other parent. Oh, i'm 25 and living at home - doesn't get easier with time, parents will always scare the heck out of me :)
my mum just said - she'd rather me be pregnant than be a druggie, have aids or be a big time criminal - pregnancy she said our family can handle as babies are nice.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 My father's sister was in the same position as you 14 years ago. She was 45 unmarried and pregnant. She confided in my father long before she told her mother who was also very strict and old fashioned. Whilst I don't know what Nana's inital reaction was to the pregnancy she supported my aunty throughout the pregnancy and spent many happy years before her death helping to care for her grandchild.
I imagine your parents may initially be shocked but I'm sure they will get over it and support you in whatever decision you make. I would prepare yourself for the worst reaction and you may be pleasantly suprised.
Best of luck to you and congratulations on your pregnancy.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 April 2010):
There isn't really any easy way to tell them, so have a friend beside you when you do. Pick the one parent who may be a bit easier, and tell them first. If you're worried, speak to your doctor who might be able to suggest a few ideas.
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