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writes:i'll get straight to it,i'm bisexual and i dunno if i should tell my familly,my brother is a lil bit homophobic n i dunno how they'll react...please anyone i need advise on what to do and light on the situation thank you -UnknownEntity Reply to this Question
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reader, lboy +, writes (6 September 2007):
 dear reader,if you are as close to your parnets and your brother as i am with mine then i am sure that you have nothing to worry about they probably have already guessed and are waiting for you to be ready to tell them, trust me just tell them, but break it in gently don't just come straight out with it as it may shock them too much and cause them to go on the offensive and say things they dont mean.good lucklboyxxx
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (24 August 2007):
 if your family love you they should accept the way you are. so what if you are bi its not like you are making it known to the whole world. i know many bi people and they have healthy relationships with different people. and when you finally bring someone home whether a man or a women they should accept that you are happy, if your happy they should be happy.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): I am not sure why it is anyone's business but your own until you meet someone special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): Just be honest and tell them. If you can't tell face-to-face write them a letter and put it somewhere where they would be able to find it e.g. in a drawer or something. They might be shocked at first and your brother might distance from you a bit more but if they are proper loving family they will love you no matter what sexuality you are.
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reader, Midge +, writes (24 August 2007):
 Okay, I was 18 when my best friend told me he was bisexual. To be honest I knew, just by his behaviour, but he was absolutely petrified to tell me, he thought that it would end our friendship.
He felt so much better after he told me, and in fact brought us closer together as friends. We told each other everything! I was there with him when he told his parents too. That was very difficult for him because he was one of the most popular guys at school and no-one expected him to be bisexual. He didnt look it, but because we spent so much time together, I just knew!
His parents reacted somewhat better than he ever expected. His dad disowned him, but his mum was totally supportive of him being his own person. Eventually his dad did come round and respected him for telling them his "secret".
There isnt any way that we could think of at the time to make light of the situation, but he did tell his parents one at a time. That way he had time to spend with them, and having a little cry and also a lot of laughs with his mum.
Dont panic about it! Just let the chips fall where they may and feel good about being honest!
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reader, Nevalearn  +, writes (24 August 2007):
Hi there, I don't think you find complete happiness until you are true to yourself. I think if your family love you, they will stand by you no matter what. One of my brothers is gay and he was in the same situation, was worried what we would all think. But he was so unhappy (he married and girl and tried to be straight). Once it was all out in the open he was quite relieved and could live his life as he pleased. My other brother is a bit homophobic aswell and still is, they were never close though. I think if you are close to your brother your preferences shouldn't change to much between you. We have since met a few of my bro's partners and everyone treats them as we would any other couple. Best of luck and be happy!
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